Originally Posted by Worriedhusband3 View Post
We are also in marrige counciling and we have a session today. Not sure if I should bring this up. I really think if I am wrong about this I could destroy our marriage but I am very scared I am right.
Where do you draw the line on what would be suspicious enough to demand and answer, without feeling like you'll get sent to the corner in punishment?
Let's see - flirting on a night out of town doen't do it. A friend wanting a secret email so they can talk further doesn't do it. Spending the entire night alone, unaccounted for doesn't do it. Bleeding, which defies her normal state doesn't do it. (Do you REALLY buy this? More likely that she had unprotected sex and doesn't want to give you a STD until she can be checked) So, you can't expect to be treated with respect if you question suspicious behaviors unless you catch her with another man between her thighs?
Nine people out of ten will say that it appears that she cheated on you. If it happened to me, heck, I'D even think I cheated. When it comes to our marriage, when the rest of us get into a situation where it appears that we had a one night stand, we feel the burden of proving our faithfulness, and would never blame our spouse for doubting us, because it is our stupidity that got us into this.
One day, you'll wonder why you were never in a marriage where your wife cared enough for you to explain her blatant disregard for your feelings. When you get older, you might even realize that part of being a man includes standing up for what you believe to be right, even if your wife makes you stand in the corner as punishment.
Personally, I'd bring it up, and if the counselor tried to shut it down, tell them that you do not need their services again. If your wife makes you out to be the bad guy, take it to be what it obviously was. If the friends with her, the ones who saw the flirting behind the pictures, feared that she was with another man at 5:30, then I think that it is okay for her husband to think the same thing, and not feel like he'll be punished by his wife for doing so.