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Old 04-06-2012, 11:37 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Default Fingers and Toes Crossed!!!

Some of you may know that my H had an EA w someone at work. Its been a really rocky road and it's very difficult to try to move forward while he still works 10ft from her.

WELL....today he got a call from a place he has interviewed with twice! They called to say that while a final decision will not be made until April 16th(hiring manager on vacation) ....he is the TOP candidate to date.

We really NEED this break. SOOOOO, if you guys will just cross your fingers, knock on some wood or pray I would be grateful!!!


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Old 04-06-2012, 11:43 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Whoo Hoo!!! That is AMAZING news. I know this will give you so much more ability to continue your R and move forward. I'm so happy to hear the good news!
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That would be a great thing!!! Keeping my fingers crossed for you both!!!
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Great stuff, hope you get this much needed respite.
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I'm already praying for you but I'll say a few extra for you now. I truly hope this works out for both of you. I'll cross everything I have.
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Prayers and good mojo coming your way.
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Old 04-08-2012, 08:53 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Whoo Hoo!!! That is AMAZING news. I know this will give you so much more ability to continue your R and move forward. I'm so happy to hear the good news!
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Thats just it, we cant move forward with him still THERE. Im losing the ability to feel anything at all except the churning in my belly. The jealousy..gone. THe pain...subsiding. I just cant seem to feel anything. Self preservation? All I can think about is "well he is still right there so dont get too comfortable" and so i just feel...empty.
Im hoping a new job will help me move forward if he is away from HER.
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Oh I hope it works out!! This would be so good for you guys.
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Thats just it, we cant move forward with him still THERE. Im losing the ability to feel anything at all except the churning in my belly. The jealousy..gone. THe pain...subsiding. I just cant seem to feel anything. Self preservation? All I can think about is "well he is still right there so dont get too comfortable" and so i just feel...empty.
Im hoping a new job will help me move forward if he is away from HER.
Careful though, because you can move forward still even if this job doesn't pan out. You have lots of prayers for his new job so stay hopeful still because it will happen. Him moving to a new job would be an "icing on the cake" but if this new job doesn't pan out, you can still fall back on the fact that he is working on your R too. YOU CAN DO IT AND BE STRONG...
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canttrustu,

My thoughts and prayers are still with you every day. Stay strong and stay hopeful.
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My thoughts and prayers are still with you every day. Stay strong and stay hopeful.
Thanks Beo, I am doing my best. Today is a 'strange' feeling. He is back in his office for the first time in a couple of weeks(which means he is with HER). Strangely enough, I cant define my 'feelings'. ..or lack of them. I feel pressure in my chest. I do not feel jealousy or pain? I dont understand. Its scary in a way but welcome in a way. Make sense?
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Thanks Beo, I am doing my best. Today is a 'strange' feeling. He is back in his office for the first time in a couple of weeks(which means he is with HER). Strangely enough, I cant define my 'feelings'. ..or lack of them. I feel pressure in my chest. I do not feel jealousy or pain? I dont understand. Its scary in a way but welcome in a way. Make sense?
Yes, you're scared but hopeful. You have essentially been in limbo and now you feel that if things are going to come to a head they will now. He will either reject her completely and finally or he will weaken and fold. I think he is going to be strong and look forward to the day he doesn't have to see her again...ever.
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Yes, you're scared but hopeful. You have essentially been in limbo and now you feel that if things are going to come to a head they will now. He will either reject her completely and finally or he will weaken and fold. I think he is going to be strong and look forward to the day he doesn't have to see her again...ever.
I hope youre right. Why do you think so?
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It makes sense to a BS, I am not sure you can really explain it to someone that does not have that in common with you. Best of luck and I will say a prayer for you and the new job

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I hope youre right. Why do you think so?
Why do I think he will stay strong. Because he has seen over the past couple of weeks the pain he has caused and from what you've written he sounds like he is willing to do the work necessary to repair the marriage. It would certainly be easier if he didn't work with her but you both decided to hold off on his resignation. When he comes home I would make sure to sit down and talk. Watch his body language and especially look into his eyes. Let him know how anxious you were all day and tell him he needs to keep communicating honestly and openly with you.
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