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Old 04-24-2012, 01:03 PM   #196 (permalink)
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Ok, i got the cable. Quick question though. When i plug in cable to BB, it is supposed to download right away. Will it still do this if the phone is locked?
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Old 04-24-2012, 01:04 PM   #197 (permalink)
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Ok, i got the cable. Quick question though. When i plug in cable to BB, it is supposed to download right away. Will it still do this if the phone is locked?
I don't know, but I don't think so.
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Old 04-24-2012, 01:06 PM   #198 (permalink)
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Follow the instructions (if there are any) or go to a tech savvy friend to help you.
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Old 04-24-2012, 01:36 PM   #199 (permalink)
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I don't know, but I don't think so.
You have to go to the Blackberry website and download the Blackberry Desktop Software app first and get it loaded ont o the computre. Once its loaded hide it in a folder somewhere. You have to use this app to backup the BB.
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Old 04-24-2012, 01:39 PM   #200 (permalink)
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Then the software detects that the phone is hooked up. What I don't know is whether it will do it with the phone locked, and whether or not you have to unlock the phone to proceed further. I'm pretty sure locked is locked, but I cannot confirm and wouldn't want to risk giving bad advice.

Where is my WS's phone when I need it???
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You have to go to the Blackberry website and download the Blackberry Desktop Software app first and get it loaded ont o the computre. Once its loaded hide it in a folder somewhere. You have to use this app to backup the BB.
I did download the BB desktop application, I assume it's the same as the link someone gave me in the post from this morning.
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Then the software detects that the phone is hooked up. What I don't know is whether it will do it with the phone locked, and whether or not you have to unlock the phone to proceed further. I'm pretty sure locked is locked, but I cannot confirm and wouldn't want to risk giving bad advice.

Where is my WS's phone when I need it???
Yes, just like when you first set up your iPhone to iTunes, it has to go thru the process of detecting the phone, syncing up, etc. That's why the first time is going to take a more than 2 minutes.

Unfortunately we already gave away my fWWs blackberry a few months ago, so I can't try it with it locked. So I don't know.
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Jerry, lets say you successfully do this and find absolutely nothing incriminating on her phone, nothing on the VAR for weeks, etc. Will you feel relieved and think everything is okay, or will you keep digging? And if you keep digging, what will you do?
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jerry123: hate to tell you this, but even if the BB phone is unlocked, the desktop software will still ask for the password before you can synch or access some others means by the computer. I know, I tried myself.
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jerry123: hate to tell you this, but even if the BB phone is unlocked, the desktop software will still ask for the password before you can synch or access some others means by the computer. I know, I tried myself.
At which point? I backed up my fWWs blackberry 2 years ago, the last being 6 months ago. I don't recall being asked for a password. I may be wrong, since I have already uninstalled Desktop manager.
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At which point? I backed up my fWWs blackberry 2 years ago, the last being 6 months ago. I don't recall being asked for a password. I may be wrong, since I have already uninstalled Desktop manager.
Phone was unlocked as soon as I connected it to the computer the Desktop Software asked for the PW. Couldn't get at it from the computer, it wouldn't sync. Perhaps there is a way, but I couldn't find it at the time.
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jerry123: hate to tell you this, but even if the BB phone is unlocked, the desktop software will still ask for the password before you can synch or access some others means by the computer. I know, I tried myself.
His son might know the password, having the kid nearby will come in handy.
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Jerry, lets say you successfully do this and find absolutely nothing incriminating on her phone, nothing on the VAR for weeks, etc. Will you feel relieved and think everything is okay, or will you keep digging? And if you keep digging, what will you do?
I seen OM today, I've acted like I know about what's going on between them the last few weeks. Avoiding him/not stopping by his house when he is outside while I drive by. Trust me, the look he gave me when he seen me pull up next to him basically told me the whole story. It was like he seen a ghost, and he looked like he was waiting for me to come out with it. When I did not his whole mood changed.
Yes I will keep digging. Right now I am 99% sure something went on or is going on. I will not make the newbie mistake of confronting without proof. They will both know they have me under their control and it will just push them underground. They will win, not me.
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okay got it. Keep us up to speed. It's very possible that right after your last interaction with him, he called or texted your wife (if they are up to something, that is).

Just imagine, "OMG, Jerry just pulled up next to me and it looked like he knew EVERYTHING. But then he just started making small talk, so we dodged a bullet. He still has no clue!"

So note the exact day/time you had this interaction, and check it back to whatever you find.
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okay got it. Keep us up to speed. It's very possible that right after your last interaction with him, he called or texted your wife (if they are up to something, that is).

Just imagine, "OMG, Jerry just pulled up next to me and it looked like he knew EVERYTHING. But then he just started making small talk, so we dodged a bullet. He still has no clue!"

So note the exact day/time you had this interaction, and check it back to whatever you find.

Yes, that's what i was thinking too. First chance i get i am going to type in his number for a text/phone number and see if she has it under something like "joe smith". Will let you guys know tomorrow what i find by doing that.
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