Yeah I understand your point - Complexity & PHTlump.
Now that I recall, I used to date a guy who was jobless. This was a turn off for me. The way he used to spend his day made me lose respect for him. But that was also related to the fact that I didn't really like him in the first place so it's a bit complicated. Apart from being jobless, he wasn't really good at anything.
While the OP is a house-husband and I think he should be respected for the man he has become by taking care of the kids and the house. It's hard to find men like these.
But I guess every woman has a different point of view in men.
It's all a continuum. Quitting your job in order to be a SAHD won't take a man from an 8 to a 0. But it might take him from an 8 to a 6. If his wife was a 7, then she may slowly change her view of her marriage from being lucky to be with Jerry, to seeing Jerry as lucky to be with her. And that can be enough to put a real damper on attraction. It's subtle. But, it's real.
Not to sound like you have no clue what a SAHD does, i work 7 days a week, 365 days a year with no vaca or time off. And get paid nothing. My kids have my full attention and i know they are safe. If you've never done it you can't say get out from under your wifes support.
I hate it sometimes,the stress/kids fighting/apts to run to/dance for my daughter.... but like any job, it's my job. I cook, clean, laundry, give kids baths, make sure bills are paid so she can have the high paying job she has. If it were not for me, she would not be where she is.
No offense, just wanted to let off steam...
No one says ist not a hard job, even harder than most. The problem is, no matter what they say, women cannot respect a man who is not a provider. It is hard wired into our DNA. You can argue, you can parse it. Women unconciously pick the males they mate with. Get "Married Man Sex Life" this should be your first priority.
This is the resason men are always saying "can you believe she would go out with him". Thats why good women are constantly bedding the bad boy. A stay at home dad is the opposite of an alpha male. Look at the research. And not the politically correct sh!t.
I couldn't even get a response from my wife about sahds, she just looked at me like I had lost my mind. And if you think your wife considers the help you have provided for her career advancement, well, any babysitter could have done that. And I guarantee the OM is joking to her about you behind your back.
Update: GPS was normal and i am listening to VAR now. I know it will take more than 1 recording but i am eager to find out.
In the past she has tried to act superior to me in front of people. I took care of that after a nice long talk last year. She makes really good money but it still does not give her the right to think she can walk all over me...I am a reason why she is where she is...
She at one time was acting superior because she thinks you are inferrior. She may have quit acting like it, but she hasn't quit thinking it.
It isn't sexist to think like that. While men and women are equal they aren't the same......thank God.
so youre saying he needs to change because she's sexist?
If he wants to remain a SAHD than I can respect that. The question is can his wife respect that. If she can't then she won't be able to love him and he'll have to change regardless.
If you've read anything by Athol Kay you know for several years he was a SAHD as well. But he continued to demand respect from his wife regardless of their roles. And his wife didn't lose the respect for him even though their roles were not traditional. He also admits it was very difficult to stay in a leadership role while depending on his wife to support the family. But respect is the key. If Jerry's wife is being deceptive and not showing him respect it doesn't matter how good a SAHD he is. And that must be corrected somehow or the marriage will suffer.
I just think Jerry needs to have some options to fall back on if this situation goes bad. I just don't see her giving in, moving out or giving up the house if he proves there was an A. In fact, I could see her being downright nasty and using all of her resources to send him down sh*t creek.
If he wants to remain a SAHD than I can respect that. The question is can his wife respect that. If she can't then she won't be able to love him and he'll have to change regardless.
If you've read anything by Athol Kay you know for several years he was a SAHD as well. But he continued to demand respect from his wife regardless of their roles. And his wife didn't lose the respect for him even though their roles were not traditional. He also admits it was very difficult to stay in a leadership role while depending on his wife to support the family. But respect is the key. If Jerry's wife is being deceptive and not showing him respect it doesn't matter how good a SAHD he is. And that must be corrected somehow or the marriage will suffer.
Truer words couldn't be said!!!
Maybe Jerry should be more demanding and firm.
After all, (if I'm not wrong) his wife works there because of him. She should be constantly reminded of this.
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