Successful people, both men and, women often forget the people who helped them become successful: namely their spouses. The only time a spouse gets any acknowledgment is at awards banquets, otherwise their contributions are usually taken for granted. Posted via Mobile Device
I am very glad that Jerry has found no evidence of an affair.
This neighbor sounds like your typical pud pounding d-bag. It would be ridiculous to let someone like that get into your head and affect your life in any significant way.
Ignore him and live your life with your wife on your own terms. Be happy. Be confident. Be thankful. Be you.
If ultimately your wife doesn't want that (and there is no evidence of that), someone else will.
I am very glad that Jerry has found no evidence of an affair.
This neighbor sounds like your typical pud pounding d-bag. It would be ridiculous to let someone like that get into your head and affect your life in any significant way.
Ignore him and live your life with your wife on your own terms. Be happy. Be confident. Be thankful. Be you.
If ultimately your wife doesn't want that (and there is no evidence of that), someone else will.
It's a win-win, baby!
Lot's of funny posts here...ok, i've decided to get the book "the married man sex life. Downloading now on iphone. It does talk alot of a woman needs to respect a man to give him a good sex life. That's what i need to make her do. She keeps saying in the past she respects me as a SAHD but of course she would not come out and say she does NOT respect me. So i hope the book helps.
Gave her a marriage book last night, told her i want both of us to read it. She was very receptive about the idea. I also told her we both need to start respecting each others roles better. I said i know she works and brings home the money and i respect that. I also told her i do things here so she can have a good job and the kids are safe.
Reading the married man sex life now...thanks all, i will update in the future.
I know you're not out of the woods but I'm glad to hear her positive reaction.
Book "the marriage man sex life" so far tells me a lot...i even emailed her just now to tell her i want to go back to work, even part time if possible.
Yeah, and in the marriage book i gave her there is a section that tells about how any affair will ruin a marriage. See if that sparks something.
Did you pull any phone logs yet? or on her computer or VAR?
have you installed the GPS monitoring.
Yes, been doing the GPS for 1 month and VAR has shown nothing yet...i don't have time to sync phone with PC. I've just been looking at emails. nothing much yet. Does not help with the fact i think something happened last november and i had no GPS or VAR then.
I wonder if he made a pass, she went along a bit, and then backed off?
Does she seem weird around him now?
You could casually mention sometime that you've seen him leering at her and how that made you uncomfortable about him and see her reaction. You want to be able to see her eyes and face when you it. See if she tenses up. Posted via Mobile Device
I wonder if he made a pass, she went along a bit, and then backed off?
Does she seem weird around him now?
You could casually mention sometime that you've seen him leering at her and how that made you uncomfortable about him and see her reaction. You want to be able to see her eyes and face when you it. See if she tenses up. Posted via Mobile Device
Back in November i did ask her if he ever made a pass at her. I was watching her reaction...she stopped doing what she was doing and shook her head after thinking for 2-3 seconds and said no. I said well he is sometimes talking sexual when they both are around. Funny thing was, he stopped acting that way after i said that to her. Which kind of caught me off guard and i started to do more digging...
We don't see him much since there has been no parties/get togethers. But there is one coming up in a few weeks.
Jerry what was your occupation before? Can you do consulting work out of the home?
I was a tool and die maker...the place i left would take me back. I just told her this morning i may go back to work.
Man, this book i'm reading is text book our marriage. She tries to be the dominating one a lot. Which in turns makes her less interested in me. should have got the book 6 months ago.
I will, yes the book basically tells you to be the dominant one. They actually like that (the wife)...i currently plan on not initiating sex for a while. Be more assertive with her but at the same time a great dad, which in turn would make her want me more. Then i will see if she truly wants me as a husband or wants to stick with doing what she wants with OM. It also says if a wife is cheating she covers it up better than a man. So i will stick to VAR/GPS...
I will, yes the book basically tells you to be the dominant one. They actually like that (the wife)...i currently plan on not initiating sex for a while. Be more assertive with her but at the same time a great dad, which in turn would make her want me more. Then i will see if she truly wants me as a husband or wants to stick with doing what she wants with OM. It also says if a wife is cheating she covers it up better than a man. So i will stick to VAR/GPS...
That book is eye opening isn't it. You sound like you're on the right track.
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