Yup, keeping it to myself until i have good evidence. Getting a VAR today. Got the velcro at walmart, they only had 1 type of sony VAR there and i think best buy will have better choices.
Thanks all, with GPS and VAR i should find out something. Funny thing is, tomorrow she has to travel 2 1/2 hours for work related stuff. She told me where she is going and i will have the GPS and VAR going all day in her car.
Is the OM work steady 9-5 job or does he have more free time?
Don't be surprised if your wife goes to a motel at that time period. Do you have an extra car that you can confront her incase she ends up there?
Oh yes, it will be an interesting day tomorrow. With the GPS and VAR i will no doubt find something.
I will have a full tank of gas and will even have something set up to bring my daughter to a relatives house.
Although there are a few red flag's, OP doesn't have any hard evidence proving an affair. Letting the OMW know too immaturely might force an affair to go deeper underground.
That's true. The post that I responded to had explicitly assumed an affair was ongoing. In that case, exposing to the OMW can often help end the affair.
Oh yes, it will be an interesting day tomorrow. With the GPS and VAR i will no doubt find something.
I will have a full tank of gas and will even have something set up to bring my daughter to a relatives house.
Just to remind you, I hope it wont happen but incase it did. Stay far away from getting physical. Not only will you get some serious time behind bars, you also will lose most of your child custody rights. Taking their pictures and/or videos in the act is the hassle free way to expose them. Once again I hope I'm wrong.
Just to remind you, I hope it wont happen but incase it did. Stay far away from getting physical. Not only will you get some serious time behind bars, you also will lose most of your child custody rights. Taking their pictures and/or videos in the act is the hassle free way to expose them. Once again I hope I'm wrong.
Thanks, i hear ya. If it is happening his wife will be the first to know because i will tell her. She will leave his butt so fast and he will lose his wife, 2 kids, his house...so that's what i will be looking forward to. In my case, i will just have to deal with it in my own way.
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She is a stay at home mom, i've had coffee with her in the past and just know she is the type of person who would not stay. She would get everything and alimoni, the house, child support and she could go back to work since both her kids would be in school all day.
It sound like you have a commited plan on gathering evidence, my question is confronting?
Great idea that OMW is the 1st to know, that takes care of that part of exposure, there may or may not be any more need to expose this to family and friend, that will all depend on if WW continues affair, especially if they go deeper underground and you find out. So with exposure it's steps that you will need to take depending on how your WW makes her choices.
So, lets move on to confronting, thats almost as painful as gathering the proof. Just like when you actually see for your self you want to explode, you will start shaking and the stomach will twist, but you must stay in control.Be prepared.
Confronting your wife will she denies and swears on her children that she is not having an affair will be just as painfull when you know damb well she is lying straight to your face. So be prpared.
No matter what the OM says or what the WW offers you, you may brother, will have the proof that makes anything they say void. The information you have is the power and you will have the upper hand.
So plan out your confrontation, stay strong, you are in a battle and now is not the time to do something weak that will effect the out come that you want.
Make a plan and work the plan.
When you do confront, remember do not let your WW validate her current choice to step out of the M by being a raging made man, or controling nut.
Instead be something she isn't expecting, be a man that will not beg for his marriage , a man that will not tolorate it, and a man that is confident enough to give up his marriage if she continues. If she continues to deny, ask her to leave. If she admits, then smile, ask her if she want to stay married.
Assume the worst and you see/catch something so awfull it is pure evil, this will prepare you, imagin catching them maked in the back seat of a car, do you still want to work it out?
I don't want to be mean but help you except a reality that you may hear or see in the near future and prepare you for the worst so you can take the next step in all of this and that is moving on with or with out your WW.
I get it your a SAHD, but don't be scared, thats is the worst thing for you, the more conffident you percieve your self the more scared she will be.
I sounds like she is having private conversations with him, at a level of intimacy where she can tell him about changing his behavior. She's also doing this behind you back, which even if they aren't cheating is wrong.
This guy and her have gotten way too private and cozy. I'm sorry, but it really sounds like something is going on here.
Sexual conversations about my marriage are what started my affair.
I was talking to a friend (my wife's friend) and we got pretty close. I began talking to her about my marriage to "get a girl's point of view". Therefore she knew all of my concerns and got it from my wife's side because they were friends.
When it came time to ramp it up, she knew exactly what I needed.
Whats scary is this has been going on for a year, there may be an unbreakable bond that has been created in fantasyland.
Stopping the A, well it may be easier said then done, but tolorating the A....thats what he does have control over, and protecting him self from furture emotional torture by finally confronting his WW.
It sound like you have a commited plan on gathering evidence, my question is confronting?
Great idea that OMW is the 1st to know, that takes care of that part of exposure, there may or may not be any more need to expose this to family and friend, that will all depend on if WW continues affair, especially if they go deeper underground and you find out. So with exposure it's steps that you will need to take depending on how your WW makes her choices.
So, lets move on to confronting, thats almost as painful as gathering the proof. Just like when you actually see for your self you want to explode, you will start shaking and the stomach will twist, but you must stay in control.Be prepared.
Confronting your wife will she denies and swears on her children that she is not having an affair will be just as painfull when you know damb well she is lying straight to your face. So be prpared.
No matter what the OM says or what the WW offers you, you may brother, will have the proof that makes anything they say void. The information you have is the power and you will have the upper hand.
So plan out your confrontation, stay strong, you are in a battle and now is not the time to do something weak that will effect the out come that you want.
Make a plan and work the plan.
When you do confront, remember do not let your WW validate her current choice to step out of the M by being a raging made man, or controling nut.
Instead be something she isn't expecting, be a man that will not beg for his marriage , a man that will not tolorate it, and a man that is confident enough to give up his marriage if she continues. If she continues to deny, ask her to leave. If she admits, then smile, ask her if she want to stay married.
Assume the worst and you see/catch something so awfull it is pure evil, this will prepare you, imagin catching them maked in the back seat of a car, do you still want to work it out?
I don't want to be mean but help you except a reality that you may hear or see in the near future and prepare you for the worst so you can take the next step in all of this and that is moving on with or with out your WW.
I get it your a SAHD, but don't be scared, thats is the worst thing for you, the more conffident you percieve your self the more scared she will be.
Oh yes, no problem for the novel. I am prepared for anything at this point. being a stay at home dad for the past 7 years or so it may be hard for me to get back in work force. But if i do leave her i will know i did not stay for just the kids. I am the victim here not her. I will let you guys know what i find out.
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