I wanted to answer a question in another thread and discuss it, but the thread was already going in a different direction and I hoped to be able to refer back to this conversation. so I hope the orginal poster of that thread (SweetAndSour) doesn't mind that I seperate some of my thoughts here....
I've been obsessed with understanding the "why's" to certain things involving infidelity... I'm facinated with the brain, the fog, and all of these crazy behaviors... lol.
I saw the thread titled Mental, personality disorders and infidelity.
and thought... "AHHHH... There is it!!!!!"...
I said that I believe if we dig deep enough, the link between depression/BPD/MDD and various other mental disorders and infidelity will jump off the page. I think we are talking about a link strong enough to classify it as a cause/effect relationship between the two.
In short, the very same things that cause the mental disorders (depression/Bi-P) are the exact reason that they are dangerously succeptable to cheating, and affairs. Worse yet, For someone that suffers a genuine mental disorder/chemical imbalance the levels of intensity they experience in an affair could be characterized as a "super fog". It really is interesting to look at. It's not an excuse obviously, but.. physiologically it makes sense.
Some technical food for thought....
There have been some significant breakthroughs regarding the role that the neurotransmitter dopamine plays in various mental disorders, primarily in serious depression.
Its long been thought that the primary culprit involved in depression was serotonin (and norepinephrine). But, based on recent studies, gene research and neuroimaging, there is strong evidence to support the hypothesis that major depression is actually associated with a state of reduced dopamine transmission.
There was recently a University study of the brain scans of severely depressed subjects. The subjects were administered amphetamine (as we know cocaine and other high grade amphetamines effect the brain in the very same way that affairs can, they target the dope circuits (dopaminergic pathways ) in the brain, these reward circuits are also credited with most addictions and addictive behaviors.) These subjects had a hypersensitive response to the rewarding effects of the drug, (ie; hyperaddicted responses too?
) and their scans revealed activation of certain parts of the brain which further implicated dopamine circuit dysfunction in major depression.
Without going on and on... a picture worth painting is this...
If your brain is not producing or absorbing this nuerochemical properly, (as with depression, etc..) it is essentially "starving" for it... and like a blind dog locked in a meat locker, when the brain gets the monstrous surge of dopamine it goes buck wild taking in as much as it can with reckless abandon!.
With these discoveries about the role dopamine plays in depression, you would think that curing or treating depression would now be simple. Just treat it with dopamine?
But, there in lies the problem and the thing that we see in affair situation. The ugly side effect, Addiction and addictive behaviors.
Levels of addiction happen to most people in affairs. I believe It's fifty fold for people who naturally suffer from an inability to regulate dopamine properly. Coincidentally, the same thing also happens with crack cocaine addiction. SUPER DENSE FOG!! The brain's behavior switches don't just flip, they go haywire.. All behaviors become focused on MORE, MORE, MORE!!! Advanced thinking out the window, Logic gone... Base survival instincts take over. One track mind... MUST.GET.MORE.REWARD. The picture I’m painting and the leap I will make here is this… 1.
If someone has depression, or any mental disorder they are much more likely to cheat. The brain will kick in those rationalizations and break down barriers between itself and the reward it is starving for. 2.
Worse, someone who does get through those moral barriers and crosses that line is MUCH more likely to fall victim to severe affair addiction.
I don’t have stats or research to back up the conclusion I will offer, but I’m confident someone will someday… Mental & personality disorders and infidelity are related.
not just cousins either. lol.
With that in mind... If you or your spouse suffer from depression and your are obviously dealing with infidelity issues (or you wouldn't be here? lol.) don't overlook the depression. Put it on the top of your recovery/reconcilation priority list.