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Old 04-11-2012, 04:54 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I feel like I have learned SO MUCH on here that I want my H to read and learn too

Q: is it something I should suggest he gets onto as well? I see other spouses on here and wondered if it would be a negative too?

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Old 04-11-2012, 04:56 PM   #2 (permalink)
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depends, sometimes it can cut off your ability to vent somewhere safe
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Old 04-11-2012, 04:57 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Many people like to keep TAM as a private place to post and get advice. If you don't mind your H seeing what you write and what is written to you then invite him here. Just be aware that it can restrict your freedom. For instance, I can't insult Morrigan anymore on TAM.
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Old 04-11-2012, 05:00 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I would not like mine on here at this time, perhaps down the road. But if it will help you in R then go for it.
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Old 04-11-2012, 05:04 PM   #5 (permalink)
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For instance, I can't insult Morrigan anymore on TAM.
But I can, hahahahahahahaha
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Old 04-11-2012, 05:48 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I would not like H here because he will know I am spying on him and how. Maybe down the road will be good for the both of us.
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Old 04-11-2012, 06:04 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Tell him to go find his own friends :P

If your relationship is sound (maybe even if it isn't), I don't see why not, maybe it'll help open his eyes on things he or both can improve on.

You could also suggest married man sex life as well, thats another great site.
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Old 04-12-2012, 06:49 AM   #8 (permalink)
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Me and my wife (CantSitStill) are both here on Tams,we set up an account for her afer she came back home a couple months ago,being on here really opened up her eyes a lot,I've been here for about five months.Its good therapy for us both.Everybodies situation is different but its done wonders in helping with our marriage,so give it a shot,you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.Best of luck!
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Old 04-12-2012, 08:12 AM   #9 (permalink)
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You know...this is what is a negative to TAM...You all have different opinions haha

My personality is "tell me what to do and make sure it fixes everything FAST!" Crap.

I have noticed the two couples Morrigan/Beowulf and Cantsitstill/Calvin and I think to myself that if we BOTH were on here then we would begin to understand each other. THEN I think of the things i've said and asked and wonder if I would ever say them to him is face?? THANKS FOR INPUT!!!
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Old 04-12-2012, 08:15 AM   #10 (permalink)
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Just last night my wife said she had to "Check this site out" as I am always on it.

I was kind of surprised and asked her if she hadn`t already "checked it out".
She said no the farthest she has gone is to sometimes read posts over my shoulder.

I told her I found that amazing because if I knew she was posting on a marriage site on a regular basis I`d be all over that immediately out of sheer curiosity.

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Old 04-12-2012, 09:40 AM   #11 (permalink)
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In my opinion, it's not a good idea.
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Old 04-12-2012, 09:54 AM   #12 (permalink)
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In some cases, the WS may find it useful to invite BS here, folks.
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Old 04-12-2012, 10:00 AM   #13 (permalink)
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I've seen it work or be a disaster. Did you see RandomDude and his wife? They were sniping at each other on the same thread. It was painful to read. Sometimes tone is difficult to convey online, so be careful of making assumptions about what he says. I think it would be better to discuss posts with him, but I guess at least you would see what his issues are. You may find that he is shading the situation to make himself look good.
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Old 04-12-2012, 07:38 PM   #14 (permalink)
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Many people like to keep TAM as a private place to post and get advice. If you don't mind your H seeing what you write and what is written to you then invite him here. Just be aware that it can restrict your freedom. For instance, I can't insult Morrigan anymore on TAM.
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But I can, hahahahahahahaha
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