Should i confront my wife without proof yet...

Beowulf · 04-12-2012, 05:46 PM

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Originally Posted by harpongs

See I don't get it. I'm relatively new here but I have read stories like this all over the forum.

Years and years of EA and PA, lies, denials, etc even with solid proof.

Yet you stick around continuing to confront her with hard evidence as she continues to cheat with at least 2 other guys, probably more.

Why would anyone put up with this?

Why bother compiling proof in the first place?

Once YOU know your partner is cheating, and they aren't coming clean about it, whats the point of doing anything other ending the relationship?

It's obviously over, it's been over since the day they decided to get it elsewhere and not feel remorseful about it.

Because 20 years later my wife Morrigan and I have a marriage that is fantastic in every way. Reconciliation is very possible.

OldWolf57 · 04-12-2012, 08:01 PM

Get the evidence Jerry, or confront and demand a polygraph. just say F the not trusting you, reassure me if you LOVE ME.

Thewife · 04-18-2012, 09:08 AM

how about you tell her you want to buy a blackberry and would like to see how good is it by trying on her phone? Firstly, see if she is letting you see the phone? I don't know if this will work for you, but will work for me well.

brokenbloke · 04-18-2012, 10:16 AM

Can blackberry desktop manager retrieve deleted texts? Because surely the WS is deleting the texts...
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Trying to heal · 04-18-2012, 10:28 AM

Well, with my stbxw even with the proof ( and I had a ton of it) she made up more lies and still wouldn't admit it. And this was transcripts verbatim from her conversations with the slime scumbag. She even went as far to say I was making the proof up or modifying the evidence just to be mean. WTF?! I mean come on, get everything you can. My W is so delusional she can't even admit the truth and will never come clean. That's the thing with liars. They will justify everything and still not admit it.

Mtts · 04-20-2012, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by jerry123

I hear you 100%, since every person is different you just don't know if they would cheat again. In my case, if i do find out and decide to try and make it work again who knows if she will do it again. You just don't know...

Repeating something with the expectation of a different outcome seems like a really bad way to go. I'm not saying it's not possible, but the odds are stacked and not in your favor.

I've wondered if my suddent divorce proceedings are the cause of another man.

You just can't be sure but expecting things to change if they cannot be honest is crazy. I'm going to really watch things right now and see if my wife is doing things that appear to be suspicious to me. It's not really any better knowing but might help in getting over them.

Do what makes you feel ok but the reality is intuition is there for a reason. We feel these things because through marriage you learn someone front to back. You notice out of the ordinary signs and honestly we usually ignore them because we are scared.

Hope everyone here heals and knows they are worth more than to be direspected like that.