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Old 03-06-2009, 01:19 PM   #16 (permalink)
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Glad to hear you are keeping a clear head. Your move down south can be an excellent time to make the break. You know what you have to do. PREPARE. Your eyes are open and the blinders are off. She will cheat again. No one renews their vows only to turn around and screw two guys within four months, and is committed to anything but an orgasm. Separate finances. Make your plans. Get the kids. And dump the cheating skank.
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Old 03-06-2009, 02:13 PM   #17 (permalink)
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Ya I agree thats just not right I dont think you should stay she wont change and doesnt want to it sounds like.
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Old 03-06-2009, 02:43 PM   #18 (permalink)
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I think that is what I am going to have to do.
Keep your eyes and options open. Like the others have said her past behavior doesn't boad well. Good luck!!
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Old 03-07-2009, 08:05 PM   #19 (permalink)
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Reguardless of what you decide you need to learn forgivness. You can forgive and still never speak to your brother. You can forgive and still divorce.
You are holding onto resentment and allowing it to still affect you (your brothers stupidity happened 6 years ago).
Forgivness is not condoning or forgetting. It is about not letting events in the past negatively the present.
Get the book - Forgivness for Good.
I have no other advice for you with your wife. Sounds like she isn't able to hold a course. You know what you know!!!!
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Old 03-16-2009, 01:38 PM   #20 (permalink)
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I am sorry to hear about this unfortunate situation. I agree with what has been said here. Apparently to her the bows do not mean anything and it is time for you to move on. You deserve someone better that treats you with respect. She is disrespectful and selfish and her behaviour will continue.
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Old 03-16-2009, 04:31 PM   #21 (permalink)
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you need to divorce with ur wife and move on. it will just keep happening over and over. sorry bud.. really sad to hear this.
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Old 03-23-2009, 11:56 AM   #22 (permalink)
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Why is it always someone thats close?
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Old 03-24-2009, 03:29 AM   #23 (permalink)
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Let me tell ya... during my marriage, my wife cheated on me 2 times, made out with a couple guys, and I forgave her. All of that stuff happened at least seven years ago, so I thought we survived the affair, and we were a stronger couple for it. I thought my relationship with my wife was special and we could get through anything if we just kept the lines of communication open.
About six months ago, she started making drastic improvements in her life: she started going to school, began a new job in her field of study, lost a ton of weight, got a new wardrobe, fixed her credit, and got a new car.
Finally! My wife was taking responsibility for her own life! I was so proud of her!

Well... guess what?

She decided she's no longer in love with me, she met somebody at her new job, slept with him, and now she says she's in love with him after only 2 dates. These changes she made were in preparation of abandoning the marriage.
So before this happens to you, decide to move on, get your life together, then dump her. Please let me live vicariously through you! PLEASE!
This is exactly how i feel. I'm stuck. We have a kid and a nice house. I love my lifestyle that is attached to this marriage but I dont love her. I hate her guts I think. I'm making more mistakes as i speak. Please, dump her cheating ass. Let people like Anthony and I feel some sort of redemption.
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