blueskies30

I have known since Febuary that my husband had lyed to me about where he met his affair partner. He had told me he met her at a restaurant at chilies. Then the woman FB messaged me telling me no they met online at Lots of fish.com.

I do t have access to my husbands email address since its his private on his phone. I just really wonder if his profile is deleted from the dating site. On order for me to check I think I'd have to join. But then I don't want h finding out and thinking I want to cheat
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blueskies30

The other fact is his lies have made me not trust a lot and it's very much effecting me. I
Don't care if his affair was during our seperation. He was originally hiding it when I first found out during the time he wanted to work on us. He kept telling me she was just a friend and he talked to her because she was easy to talk too
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morituri

What happens if you start getting email from men and start messaging one? What started as an innocent investigation attempt might potentially lead you in to a second PA.

Install a keylogger instead (if you haven't done so already).

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How would he find out? Surely he doesn't have access to your email when u don't have access to his? If there is absolutley no way of him finding out, it would be a good investigative route, put a pic of someone attractive in there and away you go. If the woman looks nothing like you, has a profile that would be nothing like you, then even if he does find out it is easy to explain your reasons, and they will be very plausible as so obvious. As long as there is no engaging in chat other than for investigative purposes, it will be easily probable. BUT...as moritori says, it may well he a very dangerous game. If it was me I would do it. Only because I know, absolutely, that doing anything on the side that I shouldn't would disgust me. And would not interest me. Can u get his phone to find out his email address etc? Why should he keep that hidden in the 1st place? That really is the million $ question.

code7600

This sounds like the Pina Colada song, 21st century style.
Jimmy Buffett - Pina Coladas Lyrics
posted personals in a paper, then met each other. Unclear if they
stayed together...

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sunshinetoday

I don't think it's wrong to set up dummy accounts to check up on him. Having said that, you need full access to his emails/phones ect. But the dummy account could snag him via an unknown email. I am a firm beleiver in checking up and playing detective if it helps you move on at that time. Not forever..but in the beginning and as long as you need too.

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blueskies30

Unfortunatly he is always home right now until he goes back to work. We are relocating to
A different state, so until we are moved he will be home. I need a bit of time when he's away from home to set up a dummy account on an actual computer. I'll also have access to his computer once he goes to work.
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