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keko · 04-19-2012, 01:54 PM

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Originally Posted by In The Dark

This link has me downloading software which I don't think I can do without internet access. I'll try and see what I can do tonight. I've found that file before but it didn't seem to go back very far and was difficult to read.

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In The Dark · 04-20-2012, 09:20 AM

I found the file name 3d0d7e5fb2ce288813306e4d4636395e047a3d28 but it only seems to go back to mid September. By that time, it seems contact between OM and my wife had cooled down or found a different method to contact each other. D-day was Oct. 4th but that was just me finally gaining access to the phone and text logs.

Guess I need to wait until I have internet access before I can register the extractor. They should be at my house tomorrow so maybe this weekend.

Part of me feels like I'm opening the wound back up again but I really need to know everything.

keko · 04-20-2012, 09:24 AM

For all you know there could have been nothing, try not to jump to conlusions.

Almostrecovered · 04-20-2012, 09:24 AM

when was the last time she synced the phone? did she switch to using icloud for updates?

lordmayhem · 04-20-2012, 09:25 AM

iPhone Backup Extractor for Windows and Mac

In The Dark · 04-20-2012, 10:04 AM

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Originally Posted by keko

For all you know there could have been nothing, try not to jump to conlusions.

Thanks Keko. I'm trying to stay calm and act normal until I have all the info. I haven't said anything to my wife about finding a second number she communicated with. It may very well be nothing.

If I can get everything to work, this will be the first time I also will see the communication between OM and my wife. My wife admitted to things being inappropriate but always seemed to be unable to remember specifics on what exactly she and OM texted about. I may regret seeing it but don't know if it can be worse than my own imagination. At least I will know and will be able to figure out where to go from there.

snap · 04-20-2012, 10:08 AM

So she remembers things were inappropriate but fails to remember why?

Heh.

In The Dark · 04-20-2012, 10:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Almostrecovered

when was the last time she synced the phone? did she switch to using icloud for updates?

I think her phone was synced a couple of months ago. I don't think she uses icloud for updates to my knowledge. Neither of us is very tech savvy.

lordmayhem · 04-20-2012, 10:09 AM

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Originally Posted by In The Dark

If I can get everything to work, this will be the first time I also will see the communication between OM and my wife. My wife admitted to things being inappropriate but always seemed to be unable to remember specifics on what exactly she and OM texted about. I may regret seeing it but don't know if it can be worse than my own imagination. At least I will know and will be able to figure out where to go from there.

Steel yourself for about what you're about to read. Some of us need to know what we're forgiving. It can be devastating, but you'll know what you need to do.

In The Dark · 04-20-2012, 10:11 AM

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Originally Posted by lordmayhem

iPhone Backup Extractor for Windows and Mac

I have downloaded the extractor but when I click on the link next to the SMS, it states I have to register. We moved to a new house so we don't have internet access for me to register but should have it tomorrow.

Just to clarify for this non-tech guy, after I register, when I click on the SMS link, it will show all the texts? Or will I need to do something else.

In The Dark · 04-20-2012, 10:24 AM

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Originally Posted by snap

So she remembers things were inappropriate but fails to remember why?

Heh.

Yep. Exactly how I feel. I haven't gotten much info from her so hopefully I will get it this way. At least then I'll have all the information and can figure out where to go from there.

Almostrecovered · 04-20-2012, 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted by In The Dark

I think her phone was synced a couple of months ago. I don't think she uses icloud for updates to my knowledge. Neither of us is very tech savvy.

I would sync it again and then retry, the backup file will only contain the texts from the latest back up

In The Dark · 04-20-2012, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by lordmayhem

Steel yourself for about what you're about to read. Some of us need to know what we're forgiving. It can be devastating, but you'll know what you need to do.

Thanks. I feel a shell of my old self and feel like I'm going through the motions. In a way, it is a false R on my part. She has done most of the things needed to help us repair but providing details of what exactly happened and why it happened are still missing. I pressed for those answers early in the R and never made much progress. "I don't know" was the common answer.

Maybe now I'll get what happened and can figure out what to do from there. I feel that you've got to know what you are dealing with before you can actually deal with it.

Almostrecovered · 04-20-2012, 10:40 AM

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I would sync it again and then retry, the backup file will only contain the texts from the latest back up

whoops I forgot youre trying to get older texts not newer ones
never mind

In The Dark · 04-20-2012, 10:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Almostrecovered

I would sync it again and then retry, the backup file will only contain the texts from the latest back up

Guess I'm confused but where will I find the texts going back to last summer and even to last spring? Tech dummy here.