got confused for a moment, that wont get you the older texts
the backup file gets overwritten every time the phone is synced, so if they werent there theyre probably gone
Yeah, every you sync, the older back up file gets overwritten and the new one in its place. Your only chance is if she has synced it to another computer last summer and not synced it since then. But if you only have 1 computer, then sorry.
However, the iphone backup extractor only extracts the last 3 texts messages. Once you register it when you get internet service again, you might be able to get the full history. If you have to, save that back up file before it gets synced again.
We don't do regular backups on the computer or the phones.
So I won't be able to retrieve those messages? Damn, I was hoping to finally get some answers. The current backup basically has texts from mid-September to about February. OM and my wife texted a lot from July to early September. The other number I was interested in was texting my wife from Oct. 2010 til March 2011.
My snooping lead to multiple backup files found by backup extractor on the PC, so I am thinking the iPone backup renames some files and the extractor knows about them. I would definitely look at it carefully and click in that window wat the top to see if there are multiple backups. And all sorts of deleted messages were still there....Went back as far as the phone was in use for me...
I thought iPhone created seperate backup folders everytime you synched so you could restore to a previous verison if you needed to? I owned an iPhone for a few years and could always revert if I needed to.
As for the Windows PC restore question - a Windows restore only does the OS and critical system files. All content is saved (files, folders, documents, etc) even if you choose a restore date 4 months ago. It is designed this way by nature so people can restore to a non-corrupted OS without losing any important files.
My snooping lead to multiple backup files found by backup extractor on the PC, so I am thinking the iPone backup renames some files and the extractor knows about them. I would definitely look at it carefully and click in that window wat the top to see if there are multiple backups. And all sorts of deleted messages were still there....Went back as far as the phone was in use for me...
We'll give it a try. I'll be able to sort through everything once the internet is up and running.
I guess I'm just hoping to find out so I can finally deal with it and move past it one way or another.
Finally got internet to the house and was able to register the iphone backup extractor but when I click on the link by the SMS(it shows 4,000+ texts), it doesn't do anything. Am I missing something? I've found the file from the last back but it only runs up until mid-September. I need texts from before that.
Also, if I am unable to recover any texts, any suggestions on the best way to approach my wife about this other number found on the phone/text records. It occurred before OM and ran right up to the month before OM started texting. Reverse phone number search shows a man's name in another state(far away). The number is no longer active. The number is no longer in my wife's phone. Calls and texts were no where near what OM and she did but the pattern is a little disturbing.
My theory is that this has to be someone she met at a conference. The pattern shows it would not be work related as texts/calls are on weekends or evenings. She has never mentioned meeting someone or befriending someone at a conference or from this state. The calls/texts stop about a month before OM.
R seems to be going well but I still struggle with trust. I verify now and everything seems okay. I guess my biggest issue is I don't feel I got everything on D-day. She admits texts that were inappropriate but says nothing physical. I had no proof other than logic and phone/text records from the cell phone carrier. Never saw the actual texts. Now to learn that there possibly could have been someone else she was texting makes me pissed off.
I could be off base, it could be a female and the phone was registered under her husband's name. But logic and my gut tell me differently. I've been keeping everything cool for a few weeks while trying to get internet up in the hopes I could recover texts that would tell me something. I'm not having much luck. So that leaves only my wife to tell me and she was not really forthcoming on D-day.
Any suggestions on how to approach her about this other number?
Did you contact the company for support? Was the program installed properly?
I will contact them tonight but it looks to be properly installed to me. In post #35, lordmayhem shows what it looks like. When I click on the link next to SMS(his example shows 11,726 in blue), it doesn't do anything. What is supposed to happen?
Hi, I am truly sorry for what you are going through. It has been about 1 year since I've found out about my husband's affairs. I know you want to believe that there may not have been a physical relationship, but you realistically have to consider the possibility.
In my case, there were 100's of text messages and he swore on our son's life that there was nothing physical with any of the women, I just waited it out until I came across the incriminating texts before he had a chance to delete them, and then he confessed. Most cheaters do NOT want to get caught and they will say and do anything to assure us that it never went to a physical level, I know you said that you are pretty sure they never exchanged "I love you's", that is probably true, you don't need to be in love with someone to have sex with them.
I would definitely hold her accountable as to any questions you have about this to move forward with the healing process. I am still a wreck as far as the trust issue, but it is getting better every day and I am not afraid to ask these pertinent questions and he is more than willing to answer any and all questions to help me heal. You never know, she may be very willing to come forward with the truth. None of this is easy, but I can feel your pain and I know how "not knowing" will only eat away at you every day until you get those answers. I hope this helps, I am just speaking from my own experience, it's been a year, it does get easier, it's a scary road ahead, and not an easy one. I wish you all the best.
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