Re: Just found out my wife cheated
Martinique, as someone whose been in a similar place as you, let me share, for me my ex was very doubtful she wanted to R, she certainly wasn't begging but she was saying she'd give it time (I knew that just wasn't in her nature to give things time though). I didn't want her to be a "better" or "amazing" person, I just wanted her to commit to the marriage so we could have a "better relationship".
She is still dealing with the lack of (or hopefully not continuation) affair chemicals in her brain.
So I agree with AR, take some time and keep observing her through the process - if she is remorseful she will learn to be patient, and if she is not willing to suffer through the patience of letting you heal from the pain she has caused then you will know if or when you want to cut her from your life.
Good luck I know its the hardest thing in the world right now, having to choose from choices you never wanted to have to choose from.