Originally Posted by chapparal
It does sound like she's trying. I'll give her props for that. I think her drinking is your biggest problem.
Good luck and prayers.
I dunno about that...
Sounds to me like she doesn't want to be divorced
, and she's trying to keep the peace. She's telling him what she has because he cornered her and caught her entirely within her lie, so she's fessing up and telling what she cannot hide.
Martinique78's story on the previous page smells an awful lot like BS. She injects awkward flattery to make him feel better about the affair. Statements like -
"He pulled it out, she said she laughed cause it was so small and said what do you expect me to do with that."
"So she gave him oral sex in and out three times then she said I can do this either. She got dressed and came home."
- Sound more like damage control, with her trying to convince her betrayed spouse that the incident wasn't as serious as it actually was.
Judging by what has been revealed over the course of this topic, it seems to me like the wife wanted to maintain the affair - she liked
the other man. She admits she likes him and wants to continue seeing him in the recorded conversation. Her reason for continuing to see him are highly suspect too (I think they're an outright crock of ****, honestly).
It's clear the wife doesn't want to lose her marriage with Martinique78. At the same time, she's still trickling truths to him in hopes that she satisfies his inquiries, without having to be completely honest.
Sadly, I don't have any good advice to give Martinique78. Just, don't get too complacent, and don't assume because she's being more outgoing with certain details, that you guys are in full R mode. I definitely wish you luck, since I truly believe you can work through this affair. But be vigilant, and see that she adheres to your rules.