Ishe said everything happened because I wasn't giving her enough attention because I was working so much.
Think long and hard about what she has said to you.
Rather than come to you in a loving way and say, let's sit down and work on a budget so you don't have to work so hard
or, honey, can we brainstorm a way for me to make extra money so we can make ends meet but still spend time together
or, sweetie, how about we cancel cable or some other luxury for a while until we get our heads above water,
or, I feel like I never get 5 minutes to talk to you, you're the love of my life and I miss you now that you are working so hard....
she goes out and spends MORE of your money and tells (one? two? it was hard to keep track) men that she is available for sex anytime, just name the place.
When she's caught, the first thing she does is make you think you're crazy.
When she's caught again, the next thing she does is blame you.
This is someone whose moral compass is so far underwater that it may be she never had one. I know it is shocking that you married this person who has been taken over by demons or an alien invasion, but you have to deal with the reality of precisely what her ACTIONS are going forward, and not some dream from the past.
Do you have children? Sorry if I missed a mention of them. (Breaking up your responses into paragraphs helps us read the details you want to share.)