mahike

Our MC asked us to watch Fireproof. This was tough for me to watch. Some of the fights seemed like us word for word. They touched on an EA that sent my blood pressure off the scale.

We were supposed to watch it together but I cannot watch a movie that even touches on an affiar with my wife.

Anyone else watch it? What did you take away from it.

canttrustu

Didnt watch that and now Im sure we wont. I can say that we have recently(this week) turned off 2 shows b/c there was an infidelity subplot. I watch tv to turn my brain off of the stuff for a while. Twice this week we have looked at each other and said "had enough?" and turned the channel.

So I know what you mean.

Machiavelli

I agree with Dalrock on this one:

Firebombed | Dalrock

highwood

I know it is amazing how uncomfortable it is now watching tv with H at times and the topic of affairs comes up...whether it be a talk show about someone cheating, or a regular show, etc. I will still watch it but I feel uncomfortable and I suspect that H gets anxious wondering if I will bring something up and we will have another argument.

CH

The entire movie is up on youtube if you want to watch it.

omega

Thanks for the mention - I'm watching it on youtube at the moment! at part 6 of 12.

Grayson

This is that Kirk Cameron, holier-than-thou piece of religious propaganda garbage, right? The one that sends the message that, with blind faith in the Sky Bully, you can find the strength to buy back your cheating spouse's "love?"
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omega

Okay, so I watched the whole thing.

Disturbed by how the wife's EA was swept under the rug as if it didn't matter. Both spouses were at fault, but he was the only one doing any heavy lifting.

I'm a sworn atheist, as is my H, but I don't mind the religious bent, I know that that speaks to many people. I think the movie had a good message beyond the proselytzing but man, the wife got off easy. She was one big biatch from the get-go.

CandieGirl

Kirk Cameron? From that sh!tty 80's sitcom???

omega

Yes, and according to a comment on the youtube version, the woman in the kiss scene is actually his wife, not the actress playing his wife, because he refused to kiss any woman other than his wife. Which is sweet, but also ridiculous if you know anything about professional acting.

PHTlump

You shouldn't let your enmity for Christianity bias your view of the film. I am a Christian and I think the film is deeply flawed for reasons that have nothing to do with theology.

hurtingbadly

I posted about this movie before and the general response was don't watch it. My MIL gave it to WS and I to watch together. I took offense to that. She needs to stay out. From what I was told this movie doesn't make the BS feel any better at all. MIL blames me for our problems, I'm the one to blame cause I haven't forgiven him for his ONS with a stranger. Him giving me HPV. Him having an EA with a coworker. Him doing drugs behind my back... Go figure.

I have read reviews on the Love Dare book at times of desperation, but I feel extremely hesitant about it. And it doesn't look like something you can do together, it looks more like something you do behind the other one's back???

sinnister

Interestingly enough ^^^^ my inlaws also put this movie on while my wife and I were over. I sat through this crap with my blood boiling the whole time. I couldn't believe a firefighter...a man who must be born with the cojones to risk his life to save others was portrayed like a total b....for looking at porn and saving up for a boat. Well excuse me. If THAT is enough to get a woman to cheat we're all doomed.

Grayson

To be sure, it has many flaws, but daresay that some (many? all?) of them stem from beginning from a theological conclusion (faith can "save" even the worst marriage) and clumsily working backwards to try creating a story that reaches that conclusion.
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Kurosity

My H and I watched it together. I too saw the wife get off easy for her EA.

I think they were trying to high light somethings that distroy a marriage and did a poor job in not explainning more. Porn addiction, EAs , unexpressed expectations, how each felt the other did not treat them well, and so on.
The fight was very realistic and the way they treated each other and talked with each other seems closer to reality more so then mainstream movies portay.

The Love Dare is about changing your self and how you treat your spouse, making an effort to make things better. It is not about doing it together because it is about making changes of ones self that might produce a desireable action out of spouse and a change in the way things work between the couple.

There was a lot of silly stupid stuff in it and the movie was to promote then book (I heard it was based on a true story) well watching it did not change things for us and the part where he tells his wife he is sorry made me cry and made me wish my h could just pour it out like that to me.
Who knows the book may have helped some people change or at least form a habit of being better to their spouse then they have.