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Old 04-23-2012, 10:40 AM   #46 (permalink)
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Is she bi-polar? Wide emotional mood swings aren't normal--as even your kids know. That wouldn't be an excuse, of course. There are other serious mental health issues she may have, if you read enough threads you'll see this with long term, serial cheaters.

But her mood swings could also just be a symptom of a 'normal' person compartmentalizing and living a secret double life. She was mysteriously angry or depressed and you couldn't see the cause, and she wasn't about to tell you. Hence the roller coaster for the rest of you.
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Old 04-23-2012, 10:40 AM   #47 (permalink)
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Is she bi-polar? Wide emotional mood swings aren't normal--as even your kids know. That wouldn't be an excuse, of course. There are other serious mental health issues she may have, if you read enough threads you'll see this with long term, serial cheaters.

But her mood swings could also just be a symptom of a 'normal' person compartmentalizing and living a secret double life. She was mysteriously angry or depressed and you couldn't see the cause, and she wasn't about to tell you. Hence the roller coaster for the rest of you.

too much chicken and egg there to speculate imo, she would need to see a professional
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Old 04-23-2012, 10:41 AM   #48 (permalink)
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all signs point to her not doing the work for R, plus add the fact she's a serial cheater. You're best off filing imo
I would bet that this isn't the first time....only the first time that she's been caught. If she didn't show any obvious red flags this time around, it means she's an experienced serial cheater.

Jeez, 2 OM at the same time? What a *****.
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Old 04-23-2012, 10:41 AM   #49 (permalink)
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Ask any woman who is a divorced mother of small children if she's tired and chances are good you'll get a dirty look right back at you. Your wife wants to continue being married because you make it easier for her to fvck around with other men. Let her feel what other women experience on a daily basis, in many cases through no fault of their own.
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Old 04-23-2012, 10:43 AM   #50 (permalink)
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Ask any woman who is a divorced mother of small children if she's tired and chances are good you'll get a dirty look right back at you. Your wife wants to continue being married because you make it easier for her to fvck around with other men. Let her feel what other women experience on a daily basis, in many cases through no fault of their own.


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Old 04-23-2012, 10:46 AM   #51 (permalink)
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WTH? She texted the other guys to apologize? For what, f**king them?

C34, please get tested for STD's as soon as possible.
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Old 04-23-2012, 10:48 AM   #52 (permalink)
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hey C34, sorry you're here. This one is a total looser and needs to kicked to the curb pronto. How long do you think she has been doing this? Other men besides these two? DNA for paternity? Stay strong my man.
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Old 04-23-2012, 11:01 AM   #53 (permalink)
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Obviously the "gay" guy wasn't really gay eventhough he pretended he was. The "gay thing" was just an agreement between him and your wife .

I hope you're not thinking twice about this marriage, are you?
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Old 04-23-2012, 11:10 AM   #54 (permalink)
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Wait a minute. What happened to trust? Are we thinking that one or more of these men is not gay?

It is ok to sext with gay men ... right? To go over to their apartments.

An office full of gay men who pass a married woman around for sex.

You know I am thinking that they may not be gay. I know marriage is all about trust but something does not seem right here.

I think you should let her go. This is not the wife you were looking for.

Evidently your wife is attracted to gay men and for some reason they like to have sex with her.
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If you haven't already, will you expose your wife/OM to their workplace?
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Wait a minute. What happened to trust? Are we thinking that one or more of these men is not gay?

It is ok to sext with gay men ... right? To go over to their apartments.

An office full of gay men who pass a married woman around for sex.

You know I am thinking that they may not be gay. I know marriage is all about trust but something does not seem right here.

I think you should let her go. This is not the wife you were looking for.

Evidently your wife is attracted to gay men and for some reason they like to have sex with her.
Not sure if you are joking, or serious with this post? Sorry, just trying to clarify.
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If you haven't already, will you expose your wife/OM to their workplace?
Yes, and the one guy who was a supervisor should be reported to his HR Department.

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Old 04-23-2012, 11:18 AM   #58 (permalink)
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Damn. All her men need to take a number. Did she claim both were gay? Whoops sorry - you didn't know about number two until you cracked her text records.

She wanted to apologize to the other men - for what. F*cking them both at the same time? Cheating on them? Being sloppy and getting caught by you? Unbelievable.

I'm confused. Do you know how long this has been going on?

The only thing that is clear - you need to divorce her as soon as possible and get the cheating wh*re out of your life.
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She says that she is sorry and that she has ended her relationships. She would like to seek professional help and try to work things out. I am trying to concentrate on the kids.
WAIT!!! WAIT!!! I thought you wrote that she said if you read her texts, she was gonna leave? Did you pack her bags yet?
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Old 04-23-2012, 11:45 AM   #60 (permalink)
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He is not gay. She told me that he was gay so that I would think that they were just messing around on text message and that there was no sex. They were having plenty of sex

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Wait a minute. What happened to trust? Are we thinking that one or more of these men is not gay?

It is ok to sext with gay men ... right? To go over to their apartments.

An office full of gay men who pass a married woman around for sex.

You know I am thinking that they may not be gay. I know marriage is all about trust but something does not seem right here.

I think you should let her go. This is not the wife you were looking for.

Evidently your wife is attracted to gay men and for some reason they like to have sex with her.
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