Need to vent

Confused34 · 04-23-2012, 11:46 AM

I can't expose my wife. We have kids and she will need her job to take care of them when we divorce

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Originally Posted by keko

If you haven't already, will you expose your wife/OM to their workplace?

Confused34 · 04-23-2012, 11:48 AM

It's been going for about 9-10 months

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Originally Posted by TDSC60

Damn. All her men need to take a number. Did she claim both were gay? Whoops sorry - you didn't know about number two until you cracked her text records.

She wanted to apologize to the other men - for what. F*cking them both at the same time? Cheating on them? Being sloppy and getting caught by you? Unbelievable.

I'm confused. Do you know how long this has been going on?

The only thing that is clear - you need to divorce her as soon as possible and get the cheating wh*re out of your life.

Confused34 · 04-23-2012, 11:49 AM

Not yet, but very soon

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Originally Posted by crossbar

WAIT!!! WAIT!!! I thought you wrote that she said if you read her texts, she was gonna leave? Did you pack her bags yet?

morituri · 04-23-2012, 11:52 AM

Have you contacted a divorce attorney yet?

lordmayhem · 04-23-2012, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Confused34

He is not gay. She told me that he was gay so that I would think that they were just messing around on text message and that there was no sex. They were having plenty of sex

Let me guess...during this entire period, she wasn't giving you any but she was giving OM#1 and OM#2 all kinds of porno style sex. Always remember this rule: Affair sex is almost always unprotected sex, so she was getting creampied left and right. Get tested for STDs buddy, like yesterday.

Eli-Zor · 04-23-2012, 12:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Confused34

I can't expose my wife. We have kids and she will need her job to take care of them when we divorce

Rubbish , you won't expose because you are fearful . It is rare they lose their jobs and if she does she can get another one, a D will take into account that she can work.
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morituri · 04-23-2012, 12:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Eli-Zor

Rubbish , you won't expose because you are fearful . It is rare they lose their jobs and if she does she can get another one, a D will take into account that she can work.
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I disagree. Good paying jobs are extremely difficult to find in today's economy and since there is no R to be had, there is no point in outing her with her employer. If she lost her job, he would have to pay her a higher amount of child support and spousal support at the same time he is going to need money to maintain his own household.

Confused34 I agree with you that her job should not be touched or threatened for your sake as well as that of your kids.

michzz · 04-23-2012, 12:54 PM

I agree, if not reconciling, don't wreck the job.

That's a cut off nose to spite face moment.

Confused34 · 04-23-2012, 01:05 PM

I don't want the kids to suffer more than they have. She makes decent money and it would be harder on the kids and me without her income. My kids are my first priority right now.

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Originally Posted by morituri

I disagree. Good paying jobs are extremely difficult to find in today's economy and since there is no R to be had, there is no point in outing her with her employer. If she lost her job, he would have to pay her a higher amount of child support and spousal support at the same time he is going to need money to maintain his own household.

Confused34 I agree with you that her job should not be touched or threatened for your sake as well as that of your kids.

SprucHub · 04-23-2012, 08:54 PM

Do not shy away from spousal support and child support. Do not buy her bs - she'll start with (1) you weren't paying attention to me, then (2) I am so stressed out, and (3) midlife crisis and (4) depression and (5) needs to find herself and (6) things have been bad for a while. All revisionist history or pure BS that she may or may not believe. If you challenge her on it, she'll make herself believe more. Truth is, she always was or has become a bad egg.

In addition to STD tests, you may want paternity tests, or your kids might. You are their father and that won't be broken (like the severe bond that will be broken between her and them).

chapparal · 04-23-2012, 09:18 PM

She's in shock now. Wait a while and see how she does. I expect her to break fairly soon.

Entropy: I think your sarcasm was funny. Helped lighten my load anyway. This Monday seems to particularly suck.

Hank567 · 04-23-2012, 10:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Confused34

At least I know the truth now and I can move on with my life. This really sucks.

Ya know, I've never seen a guy so strong in his resolve to be done and get divorced from his WW. Especially since it's less than 2 weeks since D day. What's your secret?

bryanp · 04-23-2012, 10:28 PM

I think because he is intelligent.

Kallan Pavithran · 04-24-2012, 03:11 AM

Why are you waiting, just issue her with D papers. Why you want to prolong your pain?
None will blame you for Divorcing her.
Did you exposed this to all the concerned?