I have said it a few times already that cheating is THEE ultimate knife in the back and sign of disrespect you can do to someone, and once someone has done something that wrong to you why in the world would you ever trust or respect them again?? To me if you would be willing to cheat on me you would be willing to do ANYTHING else horrible to me!
I guess I'm having trouble figuring out the point to this post
Ok, so infidelity is the deal breaker for you
it is for lots of people
but it isn't for lots of others either
we are all different, some of us are very religious, some of us are casually spiritual, some of us are agnostic or athiest. And despite how much the any one person from a particular category fails to understand the others it doesn't mean that they don't exist or they aren't just as set in their own convictions.
I was once like you, I was prepared to cut all ties and head for divorce. I was convinced otherwise by my spouse through actions and I don't regret R in the slightest now, in fact I embrace it. But I don't fault others for their choice to D.
That said, there are definite cases where it is evident that R will fail based on what the BS tells us about the WS or their own feelings. In those cases I will speak up in the hopes of helping the BS see more clearly and perhaps make a better and more informed decision.
But to make a blanket statements like "once a cheater, always a cheater" or "always divorce if you are cheated on" I think are disingenuous statements that cater to one point of view only.