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Old 04-27-2012, 07:28 PM   #196 (permalink)
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Its hard to imagine that it won't take long for her to realize she is getting paid, albiet with trips, an apartment, etc. to be a *****. She may call it something else but if I were OP I would make sure everyone and especially she knew this is what any normal person would think.

She is being badly used by people that should know better. If she was my wife /relative, friend, I would be aon a mission from hell to make them regret what they had done. Cheaterville.com would only be my first stop.
Organized crime may not be as powerful as it was years ago in Vegas but it still involved in the sex trade. You fvck with them and you're dead. If she's involved with shady people then her fate may not be a pretty one.
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Old 04-27-2012, 07:38 PM   #197 (permalink)
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Organized crime may not be as powerful as it was years ago in Vegas but it still involved in the sex trade. You fvck with them and you're dead. If she's involved with shady people then her fate may not be a pretty one.
Another good reason to out the whole bunch and get her away from that life. Hooking ain't easy.

He could get the info out annoymously.

Lots of hookers get offed by their pimps, mafia or not.

Their friends just think they skipped town, unless they are being made an example.
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Old 04-27-2012, 08:39 PM   #198 (permalink)
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Organized crime may not be as powerful as it was years ago in Vegas but it still involved in the sex trade. You fvck with them and you're dead. If she's involved with shady people then her fate may not be a pretty one.
If she was involved with anything like that she would have been long gone before this and would be out working and likely on drugs. It helps keep them working that way since youve got a hook into them.

In ths case it's upper middie class trash that think they are beng oh do cool having their swingers circle, when in reality they all have paheitic broken relationships that will end in bitterness,divorce, and cheating, nothing special here,no mob, just morons.
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Old 04-27-2012, 08:47 PM   #199 (permalink)
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In ths case it's upper middie class trash that think they are beng oh do cool having their swingers circle, when in reality they all have paheitic broken relationships that will end in bitterness,divorce, and cheating, nothing special here,no mob, just morons.
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My thoughts as well. If they were really "powerful" they wouldn't be chauffering their toy around or pick her up when she was kicked out of her house.
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Old 05-17-2012, 12:59 PM   #200 (permalink)
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An update since I have gotten so many messages of support from so many of you.

Last I heard, Ex is flown around to various vacation spots by her "owners" and basically used like a toy. In my mind and heart, I have let go and she is free to live that lifestyle she chose. In time I'll forget, but can I forgive? I don't know. The paperwork is going thru uncontested and should be a "no brainer" since neither of us wants anything from each other.

I'm much calmer now, as you can tell that I type much better now.

But, here is the best parts. No STD's! And, I have already met somebody new at the gym where I have lost 10+ pounds already. she is in much better shape than me, but keeps me working to my goal. She is a friend of one of the waitresses that helped fire my Ex and knows my story. My friends still stay by my side and keep me moving forward.

I have to admit though there were some rough days where the self blame and depression really kicked in, but one day i woke up and felt free. Really don't know a better word than free. My old marriage seems like a fading bad dream now, until the lawyers call but that will stop soon.

Take Care Everyone!

PS my friends and I are soon going to confront a jerk who is beating a female friend of mine and some other sick crap he does to her. Good to be on this side of the fight, and not in it.
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Old 05-17-2012, 01:09 PM   #201 (permalink)
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Thanks for the update brother and it sound like your going to be just fine. Working out does wonders for me and it just a great way to spend the energy.

You will be so much better off in years to come you have no idea...I just feel it. It seem at least for me when you go through something this traumatic, there is always a great reward in the end.

Just like on the other side of the coin the wayward has to deal with the karma bus. It all takes time but we weep what we sow!!!!!!

When we are in are golden years with a SO to take care of each other, I have a feeling your X will be alone in trailer park filled with a hundred cats and cat boo, only to be found dead by the mailman with no one to give a damb about her except her hungry cats.

Stay strong man and good things will come your way.

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Old 05-17-2012, 01:25 PM   #202 (permalink)
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And did you expose the sex ring to her employer and the neighbors of the house? If not then why not?
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Old 05-17-2012, 01:28 PM   #203 (permalink)
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Good to hear R.

Take your time with the girls and try not to settle for the first one. Since you know what the red flags of a cheater are, take one step at a time.

Also prepare yourself when/if your ex comes begging you to help her out. More then likely she'll be thrown away with nowhere to go. Keep your ground and don't give in.
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Old 05-17-2012, 03:40 PM   #204 (permalink)
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R,
I am glad that your head and heart are on the mend.

Life will get better as time goes on.

And cherish your friends my man. It sounds like you have a good crew to hang out with.

Screw your exwife. Do not give her a 2nd thought. She will find out soon enough what it feels like to be discarded property.

I am glad the std test came out negative.

And the workouts with your lady friend are good. I hope she whips your head, body and maybe even your heart into better shape for you.

Cheers to a better, brighter future!

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Thankyou for letting us know how you are. Do not be a stranger in the future.....
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Old 05-17-2012, 04:07 PM   #205 (permalink)
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Hopefully she won't end up in porn
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Old 05-17-2012, 04:20 PM   #206 (permalink)
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W,
She probably already has a porn filmed during her initiation.

She is no longer RGoldman's problem.

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Old 05-17-2012, 04:49 PM   #207 (permalink)
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Her ambition in life was to become a sex slave/prostitute?

Was she that hot? She's going to end up disappearing one day and just be yet another missing person in the NCIC list. Truly sad.

And a new chapter is beginning.
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Old 05-17-2012, 05:00 PM   #208 (permalink)
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Her ambition in life was to become a sex slave/prostitute?

Was she that hot? She's going to end up disappearing one day and just be yet another missing person in the NCIC list. Truly sad.

And a new chapter is beginning.
There are many that live this lifestyle. How she ends up depends on how she manages herself after this. There are many successful narcissist and sociopaths living out there. She is none of his concern now.
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Her ambition in life was to become a sex slave/prostitute?

Was she that hot? She's going to end up disappearing one day and just be yet another missing person in the NCIC list. Truly sad.

And a new chapter is beginning.
Maybe it's just a sequel.
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Old 05-18-2012, 12:58 PM   #210 (permalink)
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Not my job to expose the ring, especially since no one is forced into the group. Some of my Buds have filed tips to local law, but it isn't my problem anymore. Right now I need to repair me and help others through this kind of nightmare. scary just how many bad marriages are out there, and how many predators are waiting to scoop these people up and twist them into somebody you wouldn't even know anymore.
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