Thor

I am not ready to jump to the conclusion she is boinking the personal trainer. Staying vigilant but not paranoid would be my advice in terms of infidelity.

At this time I would suggest you attack the relationship issues rather than question her. Don't ask her what she is doing every night, don't complain about her ditzy (****ty?) young female friends. Instead, tell her you want to spend more time together with her. Lead the relationship by planning things together. Tell her you feel things slipping a bit because you are both getting so busy, and you want to reconnect with her. Make it a positive conversation with her, not a nagging or complaining experience. Ask her what she would like more of or less of in the relationship.

If she is having a bit of a mid life crisis as 30 approaches, being positive with her is a better approach than *****ing at her. But still keep your eyes open. I think it a red flag that her previously close friends are saying things to you about her behavior.

Jellybeans

Nobody hangs out at a gym for 4 hours unless they work there.

Something is up.

keko

For 4 days, late at night, yep she is doing things she shouldn't be.

Almostrecovered

GPS her car to see if she is even at the gym

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morituri

Or her body is getting a special "work out".

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R,

I hope you've reconsidered about getting the recorders and such.

I think you have a problem here

Investigate, Investigate, Investigate!

Entropy3000

She may have changed professions. Maybe doing some "modeling" or eye wide shut stuff.

The free gym membership I find interesting. Yeah that happens.

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If she has an iPhone you can activate the "Find My phone" function. It should tell you if she is at the gym the whole time.

Of course that won't tell you if she leaves the phone in her car and takes a little drive with someone else or hops in a car for some parking lot action.

Jellybeans

You should just show up at the gym and tell her you wanted to surprise her.

lovelygirl

This must be it!!!

It should happen as a real fact. Just show up there and see her reaction!!!

morituri

That's a possibility. Some wives have become escorts behind their husband's backs.

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Entropy3000

Normally I would not even go there, this is Las Vegas. She is a ****tail waitress and gets hit on a lot by guys looking for sex. Some of these guys do have money to throw away. Or just play the role for the trip. I could see some guy trying to find out if she had her price.

I am going to get beat on for suggesting this but, she may just be a type of escort. Money is probably pretty good.

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keko

OP, did her income increase? Is she stashing "tips" somewhere? Or did she start buying expensive items without your knowledge?

Machiavelli

She won't have a reaction, because she won't be there.

Machiavelli

Well, she is a ****tail waitress in vegas. Maybe she's moved up to "bottle hostess."