Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Southern california
Re: I can't give him what he needs! Help!
Many need every little detail---so they actually know what happened---and don't have/want to leave anything to their imagination
It is his sub-conscious, that he and now you, are dealing with
You also trickle truthed him, for a period of time---so not only did you come home every night for 5 long years, look him in the eye, and tell him everything was OK, and some of those nights, were after you had your cheap sex, with your lover, that in and of itself---Is 5 yrs. of lies, by omission.
He now knows his mge for the last 5 yrs, has been a farce, he has a wife, who is a master at deception, conniving, manipulation, and lying----what do you want him to think
You better get down on your knees, and thank whoever you want that you have a H., that is willing to let you stay, even after you destroyed his soul, took away his carefree life, wrecked his peace of mind----and more than likely destroyed his trust of all women-----as Bryan says---turn it around, what would you do, if you were the betrayed spouse
I don't know why he is willing to give you this greatest gift you will ever get---the 2nd chance---but you better appreciate it, and give him what he needs---cuz your alternative, is becoming a single divorced woman---on your own, probably having to work long hard hours to make a living, and trying to find a good, decent man, which depending on your age, and location---might not be very easy to do
You had cheap meaningless sex (so you say), for 5 yrs, that's 5 yrs, you treated your H, as a POS---just thank your lucky stars, you are still in this mge, and do what your H., needs you to do, to help him out.