Update: As you all know, she left yesterday. I took my 13 year old daughter out on a Daddy daughter date as I like to do that once a month so she knows how a young lady is to be treated when she starts dating. When I brought her to her Moms new home last night there were 5 cars there, she was having a party. Now since my wife is a stay at home Mom (right now) and homeschools all 4 of our kids, my kids tell me that she did a "really quick" school session today, gave my 16 year old son money to bring the other 3 out to lunch while she "ran errands". I am really getting the feeling that my wife is having an affair with a married man. My wife was fine being married to me while seeing and sleeping with this guy for a few months, now that she is out on her own, she still feels the need to "sneak", all of this while she could very easily have waited a few hours until the kids were over here with me for the night. Makes me think that she cannot see him tonight for one reason or another. Not really trying to get into her head, but man she is really screwed up lately, she used to be the absolute without a doubt best Mother that I could ever imagine! Now she is moody to the kids, does not do enough with them school wise, nor wants to really spend time with them when there are "other options". This is just beyond mind boggling! Someone please wake me! I just hope that she doesnt wake up before the divorce can be finalized and I can protect my house. I know there is no turning back now!
Why are you still having you kids be schooled by her? She's a selfish, evil cheater, what can she actually teach?
Since she is still in fantasy, push for a quick settlement and get it over with fast. Once she starts getting more advice from her "friends" she'll be asking a whole lot more.
One last thing, she text me 29 times today for one reason or another, nothing earth shattering that couldnt have waited. Like she text me to make sure that my kids were here, when she has ALWAYS text my 16 year old son to see when he has made it to his destination. I always replied with very short answers, like "k" or "yep". What is she doing? Trying to keep me sucked in?
Yes she want the security and stability you offer while shes off screwing around. She compartalmantalizes her behavior. What I mean is she still has a use for you and then also her 2nd life of parties and sex.
Keep your distance and when the D if final go dark, find a mediator that will act as ago between with the kids.
Its a balancing act now but when the time comes you will beable to move on with out her.
Do what you can to move the D on ASAP.
Have you done any research on finding the OM, it sound to me like he has a big influence on her and the sooner you get OM out of her life the better off your kids will be.
Often when you expose the affair to the OMW it will break up the affair. It will also piss off your wife, but at this point, whats it matter?
I just cannot get away from her. She texts me for random reasons. Sends emails that say stuff like "will you pay the bill for my car insurance until we are divorced and take it out of what you are giving me monthly"? She just wont let go even though she has moved out and is telling the kids that Mommy and Daddy will not be together anymore. I gave her divorce papers today, then I took my kids to a friends birthday part, and guess who showed up? She said she was only staying for a few minutes but ended up being 2 and a half hours. I would catch her looking at me, I would just turn away. She smiled at me a few times, then when she dropped my son back at my house, she looked deep at me. I turned away because I dont want to give her the wrong idea, I love the woman I married so very much! But what she has become is disturbing to say the least, cheating, lying, and disrespectful are just to name a few. I hope that I can stay strong and follow through with the divorce because I deserve better!
I just cannot get away from her. She texts me for random reasons. Sends emails that say stuff like "will you pay the bill for my car insurance until we are divorced and take it out of what you are giving me monthly"? She just wont let go even though she has moved out and is telling the kids that Mommy and Daddy will not be together anymore. I gave her divorce papers today, then I took my kids to a friends birthday part, and guess who showed up? She said she was only staying for a few minutes but ended up being 2 and a half hours. I would catch her looking at me, I would just turn away. She smiled at me a few times, then when she dropped my son back at my house, she looked deep at me. I turned away because I dont want to give her the wrong idea, I love the woman I married so very much! But what she has become is disturbing to say the least, cheating, lying, and disrespectful are just to name a few. I hope that I can stay strong and follow through with the divorce because I deserve better!
She is beginning to get hit with little doses of reality. She is beginning to realize that her life after divorce is not looking all that appealing. She is possibly trying to gauge your reaction to her with an eye toward possibly coming back home to the good life of a cheating stay at home Mom that she had before. All this is totally selfish. Do not be fooled. She is not thinking about you or the kids - only herself. She may even get on her hands and knees to apologize and beg for another chance but you already know that it would be an act and you can never trust her again.
Call the lawyer and tell him to do whatever he can to fast track the divorce.
You say she squirted out some other guy's child six years ago? What did she do with that child? Did she put it up for adoption, or leave it on a park bench? Or did she leave it up to you to financially support it?
And, you keep implying that you "love her". What is it that you love about her??
You say she squirted out some other guy's child six years ago? What did she do with that child? Did she put it up for adoption, or leave it on a park bench? Or did she leave it up to you to financially support it?
And, you keep implying that you "love her". What is it that you love about her??
First off, when the wife got pregnant back in 2006 she aborted it.
My wife moved out on Monday to be "free" and still will not admit the affair that she is in. We have agreed however to be very amicable towards one another for the kids.
Now I am very confused by her actions, I am trying not to get into her head, but I cant help myself, LOL. I know what I must do, but she is throwing me all kinds of curve balls and I am not sure why. She has sent me more texts this week than the past 3 months combined I think. Then my boys had a cub scout pack meeting on Thursday night, she text me and asked me if it was ok if she went? I said "I didnt care at all", she shows up and makes a point to come up to me twice, first to tell me about some stupid movie she rented for the kids, then to tell me she was leaving. Now yesterday, she dropped the kids off at my house as she said that they wanted to come over early, when she dropped them off I gave her a preliminary divorce agreement that I had drawn up on the Maricopa County Family Law website (as we have agreed to try to do this without attorneys) But she wont even acknowledge them... Some good friends of ours were having a birthday party for 2 of their boys, I had the kids so I took them, she had made a comment earlier in the day that she was going to "stop by", while on my way there she texts me asking me if I want her to pick up an iced tea from McDonalds? Then she gets to the party and sits down right next to me ( mind you she is not wearing her wedding ring ), I then move across the table, I catch her a few times looking at me, once she was smiling at me. So she stays for the entire party, one of my kids got a bloody lip and he wanted Mom like every little boy does when they get hurt, so Mom says she will take him out for ice cream and then drop him off at my house. When she drops him off, she then says goodbye to the boys, gives them a hug and says "see you later" too me. I just turn around and walk towards the door, out of the corner of my eye I can see her looking at me, I turn around and she smiles, I then just give a half assed smile back and go inside as she drives off.
I am very curious to say the least if she is just happy that she is free and wants to be my "friend". Or is she slowly starting to regret the decisions that she made? I guess either way it doesnt matter as I cant submit myself to that pain anymore.
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