Re: Need Guidance With Exposure and Execution of 180
Why doesn't everyone think she wasn't exposed. I told her parents and sis directly who the person was and what she did. Her ex-H knows, too. They know exactly what happened. Whether they choose to believe it or not is another thing. The work exposure can take place anytime.
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Originally Posted by bandit.45
Get a quick anullment. Don't waste money on divorce. Once it goes thru and you are in the clear then expose to everyone. Posted via Mobile Device
I hope you can swing an annulment. I don't know all the ins and outs of those and how your spouse can block one. She very well might contest it somehow out of spite.
So another tack I've seen suggested is to have preliminary visits with as many divorce attorneys as you can so that she is precluded from hiring her choice of lawyer.
I know it sounds petty, and ordinarily it would be that plus childish and immature and silly, too. But this is a woman who took her first ex to the cleaners, marriage apparently is just a game to her. She toyed with your heart and discarded it within weeks of saying her vows. Time to show her it's much more serious than that and she better think twice before trying D for a third time with her future boy toy, whomever that might be
Re: Need Guidance With Exposure and Execution of 180
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Originally Posted by YPbPr
Why doesn't everyone think she wasn't exposed. I told her parents and sis directly who the person was and what she did. Her ex-H knows, too. They know exactly what happened. Whether they choose to believe it or not is another thing. The work exposure can take place anytime.
If it had taken place after you told the OM that it would because of breach of No Contact, maybe things would have unfolded differently.
But the truth is, why argue the point. She has never understood what it means to be married and as pro-R and pro-marriage as I am, you are truly better off without her.
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I'm still hoping you further expose her, and that she loses her job. I still am hoping you expose her Sister in Law. I'm not understanding why you are holding info from your Brother in Law. If Someone ever told me that wife cheated, then I would want them to tell me.
Please just get into Alpha Male mode. Channel your Inner Kobe Bryant and go for the kill. This woman is vile and disgusting. She has disrespected you to the highest degree and still hasn't told you 100% of the truth. She is not remorseful. She commited the adultery only after 3 months. This is not just a regular woman. I'm willing to bet 1 stack, that she has cheated on you multiple times before and after the marriage.
I hope you succeed brother in your future endeavors and pick a better woman. Never EVER EVER let another woman control you in and around the bedroom.
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Oh Y,
You just do not listen and take everyone's advice.
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Wife is out of the house and living with a friend. Not sure when she'll come back.
You need to get it in your thick head that she is not coming back. You need to take this view to save you, improve you and move on for yourself. Not her.
Your wife is a cheater. She will soon be a 2x loser. Stop thinking she might come back and proceed with a D or annulment.
Pack her crap up and throw it in the garage.
Do not speak to her.
Do not text her.
Do not communicate with her.
It is time to go dark not to make her feel bad because she truly does not give a cr*p about you. Go dark on her to detach.
Shamwow is right. Take off your ring and go out with friends.
Get your back bone straight and walk on with your life. Find a whole woman who will show you respect and love you 110%.
You should be tired of wanting a backstabbing, lying, manipulative biotch!!!!
Get you marriage ended legally so you can move on with your life in a positive direction.
You remind me of myself over 20 years ago. Never look back ever!!!! Just look ahead. The view is so much better!!!
HM64
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Originally Posted by YPbPr
Why doesn't everyone think she wasn't exposed. I told her parents and sis directly who the person was and what she did. Her ex-H knows, too. They know exactly what happened. Whether they choose to believe it or not is another thing. The work exposure can take place anytime.
The other man destroyed your marriage and it sure likes you are slinking off with your tail between your legs. Do you not know how disgusting this actually looks? Especcially to your wife? Name one thing you have done that makes you look like more of a man than her boyfriend.
I know I'm not beating my head against the brick wall in this thread again.
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Originally Posted by chapparal
The other man destroyed your marriage and it sure likes you are slinking off with your tail between your legs. Do you not know how disgusting this actually looks? Especcially to your wife? Name one thing you have done that makes you look like more of a man than her boyfriend.
I know I'm not beating my head against the brick wall in this thread again.
Y -- you need to stand up for youself sometime in life. If you have never done this before -- now would be an excellent time.
You have told your wife in advance ever move you were going to make -- including threaten to file on Monday -- while she sweet talked you into giving her a chance -- and now less than 48 hours she is no longer living with you. Once again she played you.
If you are a person who needs pictures to understand just how things are -- let me picture this scenario -- with no intent on hurting you anymore as your XW, family and OM have already.
But your wife and her family are probably have a good laugh at your expense as I type this (especially XW and cheating XSIL). And when your EX and OM finish the deed the next time -- and once they catch their breath after doing it for the 3rd time that night -- they will have another laugh at your expense. I have never seen a woman with so much HATE and NO RESPECT for her husband than I have seen on this thread.
ALL I AM SUGGESTING IS FOR YOU TO BECOME A MAN AND GROW A PAIR. If you don't learn now -- I am afraid your next relationship will proabaly end the same way.
Get the anullment -- then expose, expose and expose at work (XW and OM) as well as your XSIL to her husband.
It is up to you now in how your proceed -- but sometimes in order for us to grow throughout our life -- we have to have the courage to say enough is enough and step out of our comfort zone.
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Well all... I gave it my best shot and it was a wild ride. When she came home saying she wasn't prepared to R based on the R script I knew it was over.
THE 180 IS HERE! 549 posts later. Is that a site record?
I want you all to know that I'm no longer bargaining for R. It's D all the way. No need to expose W, SIL, OM unless D proceeding warrant such needs. And, even if they don't I still have the option.
Wife is out of the house and living with a friend. Not sure when she'll come back.
Now that she's made it clear that she has no intention of reconciling, and she's moved out of the house so she can continue her affair without having to deal with you, and you're "not sure when she's coming back", you're going to do the 180?
That's sort of like saying "I'm going to lock the barn door now, because the cow is out in the field".
None of the decisions to date have been yours, she's calling the shots and you're reacting. If she returned home next week and said she wasn't sure if she wanted to divorce, what do you think you'd do?
I already know the answer I'm just wondering if YOU do?
P.S. I agree there's no point in exposing the affair, all it will do is increase conflict and make the divorce more difficult. Who cares what other people think about you or the reasons for the divorce, just get it done. Exposure doesn't get anything done it just gets people pissed off.
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Seriously, do what you want with exposure, Y. Her family knows, as does yours. (though I feel for BIL if he's truly in the dark on his W's indiscretions). Just use this as a launch pad to try to step out of the box as much as possible from here on out. Be a new person. Do things you previously would be afraid to do. Put yourself in uncomfortable situations for the sake of doing just that. Good luck with the coming weeks and months... Posted via Mobile Device
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Personally, I feel shame for you in that you didn't tell BIL that HE is being cheated on. You could at least have the decency to do that much, even if you're too afraid to expose OM.
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I understand that exposing OM to work at this point is just an exercise in revenge (since exposure could have helped pull wifey out of the fog and that's not your priority anymore), so I dont blame you
but tunera is right, your BIL deserves to know what he his wife is doing
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Originally Posted by turnera
Personally, I feel shame for you in that you didn't tell BIL that HE is being cheated on. You could at least have the decency to do that much, even if you're too afraid to expose OM.
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