Re: Wife found out about emotional affair. There is more though. Do I confess or not?
if you wait for the right time to tell her, then you never will. There are always a million reasons why not to tell her at any given point. I was once told by a very important person in my life that if you cheat and it's onl once and you have no intention of it happening again, then you don't tell them. That telling them is actually more selfish then not telling them because your telling them to make yourself feel better, to relieve your guilt by hurting them. But seeing as how you have done it over and over and over then yeah i think you should tell her. Like the person earlier said if you don't then you will keep doing it because your not getting caught. AND don't lie. If she asks then tell her the truth. My husband was addicted to porn and hid it from me. We have moved past this but what hurt the most, more than feeling like i wasn't enough for him and that i wasn't attractive to him was the feeling of him lying, I gave him many many many chances to tell me the truth and he would lie and that broke the trust more than the action because it became well if he lied so easily then how do i know he isn't lying now. And coming from a woman, explain everything!! its going to hurt her, but break the dam all at once. Let it all out and be honest about everything, even if shes asks how you felt and if you liked it and where it happened because if you hold anything back then that starts a foundation for the mistrust again. Make sure to tell her how you feel about her and why you think you might have done it. and if you do feel that its a real problem you have offer that too her and let her know that you are telling her because you want to be with her and you want help.