04-25-2012, 07:59 AM
Join Date: Nov 2011
| | Re: how to get the other woman to confess what my husband actually did?
Leave the other woman alone other then to expose the A to her husband. If you do this don't let the OW or your WS know you are doing this.
The fact that he is not sharing is exactly what my wife did in 2010. She had a sexual EA with a stranger she met on FB. Thousands of texts. I had to get all the information and she would lie, lie, lie. If I did not have the hard evidence she would not admit to anything. Even when I had the evidence she still lied. I asked her if they talked on the phone. She told me no, three times. I would come home and we would sit and talk and I would ask her. After two days of no we never talked on the phone I showed her on the third day the phone records. She said, oh yea, we talked on the phone, he wanted to hear what I sounded like.
Then my wife thought I got all the texts from the phone company. I could not get them. I would need a court order and you can't get one for this. She to this day thinks I got them. Anyway, she did start answering questions only because she thought I knew more but even then I had to play games like, I know you did this (when I was only fishing) and she would says yes I did. But she never ever gave more details or admitted to anything without me asking her over and over again.
Your husband will hide and lie. My wife is now more open to coming clean after her PA but if your husband is like my wife was in 2010 you may never ever get anything out of him. He is rug sweeping.
This kind of cosmic dumbassery occupies a temporal plane of ineptitude and lack of reason so profound a Zen master could spend a lifetime meditating upon its philosophical consequences.”