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Old 04-30-2012, 01:52 PM   #151 (permalink)
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here is the exposure email:
It saddens me to inform everyone that my wife name, has been carrying on an inappropriate relationship with AP of city, state. for several months. Upon discovering of the affair, I have made numerous attempts to turn the marriage around, but I am not having much success. She has made the decision to see him as she pleases. If you support my marriage, and the two children who will be devastated, you may reach her at phone number. Please pray for us.

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Old 04-30-2012, 01:55 PM   #152 (permalink)
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here is the exposure email:
It saddens me to inform everyone that my wife name, has been carrying on an inappropriate relationship with AP of city, state. for several months. Upon discovering of the affair, I have made numerous attempts to turn the marriage around, but I am not having much success. She has made the decision to see him as she pleases. If you support my marriage, and the two children who will be devastated, you may reach her at phone number. Please pray for us.

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It's good enough but I must ask have you read the newbie thread? There are templates there designed to protect you.

What about the OM , you must target his friends and family, I heard you last time when you said he has no family, I don't buy it. Mail his client base if you have to , if a man predates on your marriage your allowed to expose him far and wide . If you still don't have luck put him on cheatersville, so long as you tell the truth only the law cannot touch you.
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Old 04-30-2012, 02:05 PM   #153 (permalink)
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Take the advice given here - I wish I'd have found this kind of support years ago. I bit my tongue and didn't expose my H or the OW to anyone other than very close friends at the time. Now I wish I'd broadcasted it to the whole county! It would have forced them to make a decision ... one way or the other ... and I could have moved forward with my life much quicker and suffered less damage.
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Old 04-30-2012, 02:06 PM   #154 (permalink)
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Actually I like the idea of naming him and giving out his cellphone. That would be a nice touch.
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Old 04-30-2012, 02:12 PM   #155 (permalink)
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Agree, However the BS had best get his head around his plan as he is running out of time.
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Old 04-30-2012, 02:16 PM   #156 (permalink)
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here is the exposure email:
It saddens me to inform everyone that my wife name, has been carrying on an inappropriate relationship with AP of city, state. for several months. Upon discovering of the affair, I have made numerous attempts to turn the marriage around, but I am not having much success. She has made the decision to see him as she pleases. If you support my marriage, and the two children who will be devastated, you may reach her at phone number. Please pray for us.

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PLEASE read the templates and use them as a basis for the letter. Modify it accordingly. I would have said:

Since discovering the affair, I have been working hard to turn our marriage around [vs. numerous attempts]
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Old 04-30-2012, 02:17 PM   #157 (permalink)
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Agree, However the BS had best get his head around his plan as he is running out of time.
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I have a list of contacts from the emails and his work place website. I will add his phone number. I have read the sticky. It helped a lot. Her calmness during this waiting period is disturbing.
I also read the let them go thread. I totally agree with it and plan on using the tips in there. No begging. Kindness and smiles.
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I have a list of contacts from the emails and his work place website. I will add his phone number. I have read the sticky. It helped a lot. Her calmness during this waiting period is disturbing.
I also read the let them go thread. I totally agree with it and plan on using the tips in there. No begging. Kindness and smiles.
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She is calm because she is with the OM and she thinks she has control.

The words are nuclear exposure especialy on his side . The exposure on her side is more measured unless she leaves home and does not commit to the marriage.

I suggest you move monies as well to secure yourself , if you are the primary child carer she will have to pay you and it may include alimony .

For now while she is in transit , expose.
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Old 04-30-2012, 02:29 PM   #159 (permalink)
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How are you going to send the letter? text, email, postal?
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I would hope not to hear from countryboy for a while as he is busy exposing.
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Plus he should go dark on his WW till she comes back.
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Old 04-30-2012, 02:35 PM   #162 (permalink)
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She is calml because she is with the OM and she thinks she has control.

The words are nuclear exposure especialy on his side . The exposure on her side is more measured unless she leaves home and does not commit to the marriage.

I suggest you move monies as well to secure yourself , if you are the primary child carer she will have to pay you and it may include alimony .

For now while she is in transit , expose.
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she is with him now for sure. she called me, but i can't make small talk with her. the only thing i want to talk about is the one thing she want discuss over the phone especially in the same car with him.

whether it is the money or comfort or whatever, i don't care now. i'm in such disbelief we are at this stage. i've been doing fine all day focused on getting my ducks in a row. that one phone call, her nonchalant way of talking when our marriage is crumbling and the thought that she has made up her mind but wont tell me is making me crazy.
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How are you going to send the letter? text, email, postal?
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I would hope not to hear from countryboy for a while as he is busy exposing.
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its set up to click and send at this point. i just want to wrap up the discussion tonight. based on the outcome, i will press send or not. i don't want the talk to be about anything else than the topic at hand. i know if i send it it will muddy the waters of our discussion. am i a fool for playing it this way?
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Send send send , she is purposefully holding you up so they can do damage control. Go offline from here and from her , no more conversations with her until you pick her up from the airport.
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