Think about it - his life is crumbling and now some of those he felt he could turn for support and encouragement think he's in jail - just not constructive in my opinion. But, like you said we do speculate and offer opinions - so I guess I'm learning that anything goes here - which I have no control over - so I'll just choose not to participate.
jinba, you have a perspective that others would find very useful--you are reconciled with your husband and in a confident, good place. (Not saying your life is perfect, but then whose is?) You just wrote a kick-a** letter to the OWH telling him his wife probably has an STD (sorry if she slashes your tires BTW). You have plenty to add so don't take offense.
There is a lot of male jostling in the threads started by husbands, but it is a masculine way. If someone called you or me wimps for not manning up we wouldn't take it kindly. But we're not guys, and this does work for many if not most guys. They get these men to focus on concrete steps, and you can see how much it lifts them out of the worst of their depression, gives them something to control when so much of their life is spinning out.
The reference to the OP being in jail is because many men lose it entirely when being confronted with the OM and despite being otherwise good, kind, loving husbands and law-abiding citizens, their emotions overcome them and they beat the you-know-what out of these people. Of course these comments in this thread are wild speculation. But that is all it is.
I don't mind posting in the threads for men despite the locker-room atmosphere, and you shouldn't either. Now if we could just get more of these guys to post in the women's threads now and then, that would be an accomplishment...