advice needed about an emotional affair

Eli-Zor · 04-29-2012, 02:26 PM

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Originally Posted by warlock07

Did you find out that it was physical? What kind of proof ? There was one WS that deleted all evidence when the H confronted too early. How long till she gets back?

Indeed , make sure you have hard copies secured where she can't find them .
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countryboy · 04-29-2012, 02:28 PM

at this point i don't care EA or PA. 3 emails all within the this month professing love. last email was a wedding package inquiry from some fancy inn. they were all from him. i'm giving her one change to NC his ass then I'm done. I can't take this.

keko · 04-29-2012, 02:29 PM

If she loves him, you're hoping for a lost cause.

Cut your loses, expose, move on.

chapparal · 04-29-2012, 02:32 PM

Send her a text and tell her you heard she was getting married.

countryboy · 04-29-2012, 02:33 PM

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Originally Posted by chapparal

Send her a text and tell her you heard she was getting married.

i think i'm waiting for the morning ride from the airport to do that

countryboy · 04-29-2012, 02:35 PM

when do i send it to her family and let them know what is going on? do i at least give her the chance to commit to a NC with OM?

keko · 04-29-2012, 02:35 PM

She is currently away with OM? Any emails indicate this time period? Can you check her bank account/credit cards statements?

keko · 04-29-2012, 02:36 PM

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Originally Posted by countryboy

when do i send it to her family and let them know what is going on? do i at least give her the chance to commit to a NC with OM?

Depends on her reactions when you tell her you know she is cheating and how she responds to stop working with OM. If she gets on her knees and begs, then yes give her another chance. If she ask's for sometime to think it over show her the door.

countryboy · 04-29-2012, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by keko

She is currently away with OM? Any emails indicate this time period? Can you check her bank account/credit cards statements?

yes it is a training seminar. just found the emails.

chapparal · 04-29-2012, 02:39 PM

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Originally Posted by countryboy

when do i send it to her family and let them know what is going on? do i at least give her the chance to commit to a NC with OM?

You should probaly wait until right after you talk with her. If you tell them before, they will contact her and she will have a good story lined up. She has no idea you suspect her , right?

keko · 04-29-2012, 02:39 PM

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Originally Posted by countryboy

yes it is a training seminar. just found the emails.

Can you call their hotel if they have seperate rooms or only one?

For example can you connect me to Mr. X few minutes later, can you connect me to Mrs. Y.

Eli-Zor · 04-29-2012, 02:40 PM

I suggest you spend this time to track down his family and friends, even Facebook. Do what you must do to make this affair very unpleasant.
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countryboy · 04-29-2012, 02:40 PM

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Originally Posted by chapparal

You should probaly wait until right after you talk with her. If you tell them before, they will contact her and she will have a good story lined up. She has no idea you suspect her , right?

she knows i suspect, but i think she is under the impression that i have forgiven her bc it was just a mistake, EA and they both agreed it was over. obviously that is not the case.

bryanp · 04-29-2012, 02:41 PM

If the roles were reversed do you think she would put up with such humiliation and disrespect from you? If you do not respect yourself then who will?

chapparal · 04-29-2012, 02:42 PM

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Originally Posted by countryboy

she knows i suspect, but i think she is under the impression that i have forgiven her bc it was just a mistake, EA and they both agreed it was over. obviously that is not the case.

If you hae that good of proof I would text her and tell her I don't see any point in her coming home.