I suggest you spend this time to track down his family and friends, even Facebook. Do what you must do to make this affair very unpleasant. Posted via Mobile Device
he has no family. friends are all cops so they are probably high fiving. only advantage i have is info, the kids and the fact we are 11 hours away and don't have any money.
she isn't allowed to take the kids out of state without my permission is she?
he has no family. friends are all cops so they are probably high fiving. only advantage i have is info, the kids and the fact we are 11 hours away and don't have any money.
she isn't allowed to take the kids out of state without my permission is she?
If he is that far away and doesn't have a spouse, exposing him wont make much difference to him. You have to expose your wife to all of your/her family and friends.
I still believe you should gather some more evidence, but that's just me.
he has no family. friends are all cops so they are probably high fiving. only advantage i have is info, the kids and the fact we are 11 hours away and don't have any money.
she isn't allowed to take the kids out of state without my permission is she?
I think your giving up to easily, he is very likely to have more than cop friends plus he has clients . His friends will not be high fiving when an exposure mail goes out , they may try intimidate you but I assure you he will be a topic of conversation and the more they talk the more people will start disliking him. Posted via Mobile Device
I think your giving up to easily, he is very likely to have more than cop friends plus he has clients . His friends will not be high fiving when an exposure mail goes out , they may try intimidate you but I assure you he will be a topic of conversation and the more they talk the more people will start disliking him. Posted via Mobile Device
i will do that if she refuses to cut ties with him and that business.
You have a short time to plan, read the newbie thread and get your process right. Exposure to his friends can always be started with "As you may already be aware."
These friends will more than likey have wives , do you seriously think these wives will want their husbands around a man who is in an affair , they would be watching their own spouses. Posted via Mobile Device
Find out which room they stayed at, if they stayed in one room then upon her returning give her a paper with the hotel room number and have her confess on the drive back.
I would also not show her the door , yet . Not until you know the OM is out of the picture . By all means if the confrontation goes bad then file , if she behaves badley at home then ask her to leave . Understand that for most affairs where there is a single OM waiting the wayward wife runs to them so kicking your wife out may backfire . If you understand this and have no option but to have her move out you must go dark and start the D process.
Your remaining silent coupled to the exposures will cause grief in her life and may cause her to refocus on your marriage. Posted via Mobile Device
Give a call to their room and if ONLY OM picks up the phone, ask to speak to Mrs. X. When she answer's ask her how the wedding is going and when she is planning to come back to you.
she isn't allowed to take the kids out of state without my permission is she?
If this is a concern , speak to a lawyer, they may recommend you file simply to lock down any movement of the children. If she leaves home she leaves the children with you, mention you will be filing for full custody. Don't enter into a legal debate with her over this , it is all part of upping the pressure. Posted via Mobile Device
Give a call to their room and if ONLY OM picks up the phone, ask to speak to Mrs. X. When she answer's ask her how the wedding is going and when she is planning to come back to you.
I like this much. It will make her really panic and ruin her big end of trip evening, Posted via Mobile Device
she isn't allowed to take the kids out of state without my permission is she?
If there is no child custody order signed by a judge, she CAN take them out of state and there's nothing you can do about it. This is why I always recommend that the BS get at least a temporary child custody order/agreement as soon as possible.
I get these types of calls all the time, with the BS asking what the police can do. Nothing unless there's a child custody order in place.
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