04-30-2012, 09:55 AM
Join Date: May 2011
| | Re: advice needed about an emotional affair
Originally Posted by countryboy
i know he is ready to commit to her, but we still have two kids that i would find hard to believe she is ready to put them through that. i my be naieve on this point as well, but i have to have faith she still has a little heart for something with so much to lose. my goal is NC and snap her out of this fog.
I've been out of your thread for a while cb so if I'm covering old ground my apologies.
In regards to your post I quoted above - never underestimate just how far up their own ass a person in an affair can get their head - it's quite alarming actually. My point is that your faith may very well be misguided. Affair fog twist a person's perceptions so badly that they can convince themselves of damn near anything.
Have you read of what's called "walk away wives" here? It's just what it sounds like, a wife who comes home one day, looks at her husband, and gives him the keys to her whole life - kids, house, marriage, all of it; and walks away to be with her AP. It happens. Hopefully your faith is not misplaced and she'll come out of it, but be prepared for her not to or at least to put up a hell of a fight.