04-29-2012, 01:57 PM
Join Date: Apr 2012
| | Re: Working far away from wife having an EA
We just had a nice discussion on Skype, others were around so we did not talk about the issue, but she was nice and loving.
I am sanguine about this for several reasons. First, she comes from a shame/taboo culture where having a PA would not only be a big step, but would change her own opinion of herself negatively. Second, she is well aware of the strong possibility that he is just manipulating her to get some on the side and something he always wanted but never had and once that happens will leave the scene again. Third, when she complained about my emotional distance and said she was thinking of leaving, I warned her that what she thought would happen might not happen and that there would be a fair division of assets. Fourth, she knows I have the OMW's contact info and could drop that bomb any minute.
We are in our late 50s, not kids anymore and have been around. I don't think it's a lack of self respect not to react in a dramatic and possible counter-productive way to this.