Originally Posted by Humble Pie
so much for no contact.
I wouldnt believe another word out of her mouth, its been lies from here on out as you are still on the rollercoaster ride going down fast.
You have given her the benefit of the doubt through this whole thread and it has cost you dearly. What are your plans now?
Originally Posted by Shaggy
At this point, what is the point of confusing the battle?
You have a sex video of her cheating.
You can see credit card charges of her meeting up with him.
She is still actively talking with him.
He is getting divorced and will be free to hookup whenever.
I believe she s planning on leaving you for him. She is just waiting until she is ready. Right now you are far away and she can and is contacting and meeting up whenever she wants because you aren't able to do anything.about it.
I would say your marriage is over and done.
I would take a family leave of absence if you could and go home to visit a lawyer and secure your possessions. Tell her she's done with you and she should just move out if she wants him so badly..
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First, there was no sex video - I just said that a sex video would be 100% proof, and I did not have 100% proof.
My heart is pounding as I'm writing this, it's been pounding all day and almost all last night. I only slept a couple of hours, but have been jacked up all day on adrenaline.
Some crazy stuff happened yesterday. At the time of the NC email (May 3), she gave me her email passwords. I spent a lot of time going though her emails yesterday and found an address for an anonymous email address I knew she had used. I was able to reset the password for that through her primary email address and, bingo! -- she had forwarded a whole series of emails between them in March.
These emails were shocking in the growing intimacy, quickly leading to professions of love. It also hurt that I was somewhat unfavorably mentioned a couple of times. It will take me awhile to get over these.
I thought the emails were incredibly emotionally manipulative and needy from his end, but she responded to them while at the same time I was wondering why she was talking about dumping me for not being "loving" enough.
Also, through our telcom account, I saw that he called her on our landline on Saturday night.
I called her and then got her and him on a conference call and she told him not to contact her. He said he would not contact her, but was always willing to be contacted by her. That drove me even more ballistic.
She said they were making out in a car for awhile, but no sex.
I contacted a couple of his adult children and told them that their father was cheating on their mother. This got me a sympathetic response from one of his sons and an angry response from OMW, who told me to stop "harassment." So I guess I blew it with OMW as a source of info by getting the kids involved, but I needed to inflict some pain on him. I did cue her into the fact that OM had told my wife about a recent affair he had in one of his emails to her, though.
So, I hope I disrupted the affair.
Now, my wife tells me she's glad it's over, acknowledges that he was manipulating her (and was also a big cheater on his wife) and says she is relieved and glad I fought for her. She (and him) deny having sex - there was at least one good opportunity on March 31.
I think reading the emails was worse than watching a video of her getting it on with a young stud for sex would have been (I am a little pervy, I guess)
I will probably go home soon for awhile, but it will take me awhile to get over this. I think we can get over it. I have a bit of a thick skin and actually learned some things about her from the emails. There is no point in me trying to distinguish my past cheating (90% for sexual thrills) and her emotional attachment to this guy.
We shall see. I just wish my heart rate would go down.