Indeed. Hopefully you have caught this soon enough. That said, you can see that transparency can help a spouse look out for the other. Had you seen that she was friends with this know predator you could have intervened.
You know, she always spoke badly about him and his affairs, and she always said she didn't like Alpha guys... So I never worried, really, though I knew such predators posess some kind of magic that attracts women.
But you are right, I tend to be too nice :-) But that doesn't give her the right to cheat.
You know, she always spoke badly about him and his affairs, and she always said she didn't like Alpha guys... So I never worried, really, though I knew such predators posess some kind of magic that attracts women.
But you are right, I tend to be too nice :-) But that doesn't give her the right to cheat.
She certainly has no right indeed. But you see that she at the least had these confused feelings. She has poor boundaries. He went after her and she responded. It is even possible she went after him and he responded.
She may rationalize and say he is really great guy and insist he is not Alpha. But she let him in. That is a very poor boundary.
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You know, she always spoke badly about him and his affairs, and she always said she didn't like Alpha guys... So I never worried, really, though I knew such predators possess some kind of magic that attracts women.
I've come to the conclusion that women who do this are secretly attracted to these men. Granted that not all women who are will act on their attraction but many will.
Women are not attracted to cowardly men - which sadly you may be perceived by her. They are attracted to men who respect themselves enough to dump them when they richly deserve it - like your wife has.
I've come to the conclusion that women who do this are secretly attracted to these men. Granted that not all women who are will act on their attraction but many will.
I've read that about affairs. Bewars of the man that your wife says she dislikes, then suddenly stops talking about. That's a red flag.
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"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing."
"Why do we fall? So we might learn to pick ourselves up."
"It’s not who we are underneath, but what we do that defines us."
I've come to the conclusion that women who do this are secretly attracted to these men.
Indeed. The fact that she talks about him [whether good or bad] it means he's part of her interest and attention.
She wasn't indifferent towards him. That's what matters.
Indeed. The fact that she talks about him [whether good or bad] it means he's part of her interest and attention.
She wasn't indifferent towards him. That's what matters.
Didn't matter enough to her to keep her from throwing her legs up for another man. Swede is her fall-back plan, nothing more. Posted via Mobile Device
I already have some evidence but I realize that more is better, so I tried to install keylogging software but whichever keylogger I chose, it is immediately removed by the antivirus program. And if I turn off the antivirus scan, then install the keylogger, it is kicked out once the antivirus is turned on again.... I even tried Elite Keylogger who claim they are updated daily to pass any antivirus software, but they were removed just as easily as all the other two.
Any one here who can recommend a program that is not detected by Norton 360? A program that also enables remote keylogging from multiple machines would be even better as my wife has a desktop and a laptop.
And of course your thoughts on my first post are also more than welcome. Like many of the people here, I'm going through some of the worst days of my life.
You can disable anti virus program by 2 way:
1. By going to Windows Services & change all Norton related services status to either manul or disable. After that just stop all Norton related services or just reboot the machine. All norton related services will remain disabled until you enable it again.
2. By disabling Norton service from starting up when Windows start. Here is how to do it:
Click start\run then type "msconfig" & press enter. A new window will pop up, just uncheck all Norton related services from "services" tab & click ok, reboot the computer, this will disable all Norton related services when the window starts up.
Offcourse another way is just uninstall Norton & reinstall it again once you are done with Keylogger after few days.
Thanks all for your comments and advice - you are all helpful. I haven't made any progress in getting more evidence the past 24 hours because it's a holiday over here and my wife is at home (like I am) so I can't install anything on her computer. But tomorrow I should have the chance to put a keylogger on it.
She's extremely nervous today, has headaches and feels bad without apparent reason. Almost like me - though I try to hide it.
The only thing I still need is 100% certainty about her lover's identity. Otherwise it will be difficult to check if she's still in contact with him, should she promise to end the affair. Her study makes it necessary to regularly correspond with other students of which some are male. I don't want her to give the name of someone else and then continue to stay in contact with the real man.
Thanks all for your comments and advice - you are all helpful. I haven't made any progress in getting more evidence the past 24 hours because it's a holiday over here and my wife is at home (like I am) so I can't install anything on her computer. But tomorrow I should have the chance to put a keylogger on it.
She's extremely nervous today, has headaches and feels bad without apparent reason. Almost like me - though I try to hide it.
The only thing I still need is 100% certainty about her lover's identity. Otherwise it will be difficult to check if she's still in contact with him, should she promise to end the affair. Her study makes it necessary to regularly correspond with other students of which some are male. I don't want her to give the name of someone else and then continue to stay in contact with the real man.
Hope to get this sorted out quickly.
I expect your body language, at some level, is telling her more than she wants to know.
The next time she goes to the gym, you should ask her if its going to be a one hour workout or a three hour trip.
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