Count of Monte Cristo

Dayum Bandit, I got two pound puppies myself - love those dogs. If he needs a taste tester he might consider getting a cat instead.

TorontoBoyWest

Watch her actions now Jimmy.

Realize that this might just be a ploy to have you ease off. If she is in fact obsessing on the loser no one can flip it off like a switch. Its not how it works.

You did well to bring in a hard line. You have to continue that.

No excuses on your part in making her aware of the consequences of deceiving you.

Good Job.

TDSC60

Jimmy,

I really hope that one of the boundaries you set up is to have no GNO with the toxic GF who started all of the cover band garbage.

Good job man.

Count and bandit.45 - I vote for a canary. Reaction time is quicker.

bandit.45

Yeah but you can't feed soup to a canary.

Machiavelli

Absolutely. It'll also explain why she caved, finally.

MrK

Yeah. My wife "didn't know why" she did some of the things she did either. Maybe because...oh, I don't know...She liked it?

Jimmy

Without a doubt. She told me about his religious views, his politics and it was all the exact opposite of what she is. So that is why it made no sense to stay friends or visit his page everyday. I feel very confident that this was a mostly one sided crush, but it is still wrong. When you make your husband go crazy, you might need to stop it. We will see. But I am preparing in case stuff goes bad again.

bandit.45

Strip your life down to the bare essentials, get your finances in order, know your legal rights and be ready to end it at any time. Its not over yet.
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Jellybeans

This made Pit.

Jimmy--it's good she wrote you that email. Positive step in the right direction. Now stay firm on your boundary/consequences. It's the only way.

Her saying she "doesn't know why" she was visiting his page often is a cop-out. Everyone knows why they do everything.

It does sound like she has a drinking problem so at some point you may want to bring up that issue. Cause a 37 year old woman getting so drunk off her tree she is losing money and her phone on the regular is not healthy/right/mature/responsible. It's also tacky as hell.

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bandit.45

Yeah... this woman is a real catch. Total bimbo.
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Jimmy

I reread the e-mail and she did not apologize for hitting me and screaming profanities at me while the kids could hear. She has said 2 words to me since the e-mail as she said she needs some time to get back to normal. And frankly her apology isn't very sincere. This is a woman who hates me because I went on her computer and looked at her history, thats all. I'm not caving on any of this. She hates me well I don't like her either. I'm not going to talk to her and try to get things back to normal. Everything she does screams guilty of something and she won't admit to anything. I thank everyone for the advice, I see how in the past she has manipulated me into giving in. It's not going to happen this time. I am ready to file at any time, I love my kids but this hell isn't good for me or the kids.

TorontoBoyWest

She needs serious IC IMO

Entropy3000

It's called entitled.

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bandit.45

Yeah, and its getting out of hand in our society.

MrK

Don't doubt yourself. I don't see any other way. Stay Strong.