jinba

Can't believe anyone would have the audacity to ask their BS if they could still be friends with OM - duh, no wonder he's working so much - I'd stay away too!

TRy

When you say pre-affair you actually mean pre-physical affair (PA), as her husband has good reason to believe that she has always been in an emotional affair (EA) with the other man (OM) their entire marriage.

With the OM finally admitting what the husband has always suspected (and the wife denying), that the OM has always been in love with the wife and was thus not just a friend (or a friend of the marraige), the husband has realized that his wife has never let him be the only man in her life. Since she has never really ever been 100% committed to only him, he is now doing some deep soul searching about his life and his marriage.

lordmayhem

Tasha's back? I remember this one. OM has been in the marriage the ENTIRE time, and I bet the BH has been resenting this because he doesn't feel comfortable and TashaB has refused to cut off contact. Geez, no wonder he threw himself into his work. Personally, I wouldn't have done that, I would have told her that if he's such an important part of her life, then she should marry him instead.

Now, the BHs fears became a reality with TashaB going PA. OM goes into stalker mode, she contacts him, and he shows up on their porch with a ring. Then he shows up again at her work with a ring.

She started a thread in the general relationship forum about how men and women can be platonic friends, failing to mention that she already slept with this platonic friend. It seemed she wants to justify having OM in her life.

TashaB, if you're reading this: If you have any compassion left in you, let your BH go. He deserves a woman that will only have him in her heart and is devoted to him totally. You cannot let your OM go, he's been in your life for a long time now and it's ruined your marriage.

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Initfortheduration

I sell cars. I get 6 days off a month. only 2 with my wife off the same day. She goes to work at 7 in the morning. Every other day I work to 9 or until the car deal is done (generally about 11). Guess what, that's what it takes to survive during a depression. Unemployment rate is at 8.1% (total bu11sh!t). IN APRIL ALONE 522,000 PEOPLE IN 9 STATES HAD THEIR UNEMPLOYMENT DISCONTINUED AND WERE TAKEN OFF OF THE UNEMPLOYMENT ROLLS. AND WE NOW HAVE THE LEAST AMOUNT OF JOBS IN AMERICA SINCE 1981.

And you are whining about your husbands long hours at work. And not being able to still be friends with the guy who skrewed you. There are about 25 million women in this country that deserve him more then you. I hope he wakes up and realizes it. What a spoiled little skank.

hookares

initfortheduration, she will figure it out one he puts her stuff at the door step and she's out on her own. It's likely he has been financing her affair, all along.