I think so too...i am going to put kids to bed then tell her i am going to watch a movie down stairs. And see if she comes down to talk later...
Thanks all for the posts...it has helped me more than you can imagine.
The MC idea is really scaring her. I wonder why?!?! Posted via Mobile Device
Could be plenty of reason's, but until you find out for sure I would suggest not to push her any further if she start's talking to you. Seem's like she is already messed up, no need to make it worse.
One option is to give her the come clean now and I promise to do 50% of the working fixing the marriage speech. Tell her you really dont want an ending, but her actions are making you believe the worst. You still her talking to her even though you she is making you believe the worst case. So it now her time to take a lep of faith and tell you what's up. Posted via Mobile Device
I think so too...i am going to put kids to bed then tell her i am going to watch a movie down stairs. And see if she comes down to talk later...
Thanks all for the posts...it has helped me more than you can imagine.
Wishing the best. Expect the worst now. Don't know what else to say.
She isn't stupid, she has to know what this looks like. I think Shaggy's idea is great. She obviously is in a corner and needs a way out. Just telling her some of the things that made you think she was cheating would not have caused her to cheat. I'm always amused when someone suggests I'm doing something I shouldn't be doing. I don't get mad, the situation just makes me laugh. Anyone else do that? This is on the order of "methinks thou doth protest to much"(?).
Is it possible she is just this upset because you have made so many changes? She could truly think you are cheating and getting a job to move out. She may have concluded you will also get custody as you have been the main care provider. Is she sleeping with her phone? Ask her to see it and ask her for the password.
She isn't stupid, she has to know what this looks like. I think Shaggy's idea is great. She obviously is in a corner and needs a way out. Just telling her some of the things that made you think she was cheating would not have caused her to cheat. I'm always amused when someone suggests I'm doing something I shouldn't be doing. I don't get mad, the situation just makes me laugh. Anyone else do that? This is on the order of "methinks thou doth protest to much"(?).
Is it possible she is just this upset because you have made so many changes? She could truly think you are cheating and getting a job to move out. She may have concluded you will also get custody as you have been the main care provider. Is she sleeping with her phone? Ask her to see it and ask her for the password.
Oh no, she did accuse me after I said to her I think she is cheating. She does not sleep with phone. Been checking phone while I was home since she has been sleeping. Watching a movie now alone. I will update tomorrow. May be a good or bad night. I will just keep an open mind if it's bad.
Thank you guys...could not deal with this without you!! Posted via Mobile Device
Jerry -- I believe you said in one of your posts that she comes home from work, eats dinner then goes to bed. If that is the case -- she may be suffering from depression -- and now the change in you and asking to see a MC scares her because she has to admit she is in depression before she can be helped. Depression is real -- and a very destructive decease -- but like anything else -- the person suffering from depression --has to admit and accept they are depressed -- and seek help on their own time -- before that help can begin.
Jerry -- I believe you said in one of your posts that she comes home from work, eats dinner then goes to bed. If that is the case -- she may be suffering from depression -- and now the change in you and asking to see a MC scares her because she has to admit she is in depression before she can be helped. Depression is real -- and a very destructive decease -- but like anything else -- the person suffering from depression --has to admit and accept they are depressed -- and seek help on their own time -- before that help can begin.
She isn't stupid, she has to know what this looks like. I think Shaggy's idea is great. She obviously is in a corner and needs a way out. Just telling her some of the things that made you think she was cheating would not have caused her to cheat. I'm always amused when someone suggests I'm doing something I shouldn't be doing. I don't get mad, the situation just makes me laugh. Anyone else do that? This is on the order of "methinks thou doth protest to much"(?).
Is it possible she is just this upset because you have made so many changes? She could truly think you are cheating and getting a job to move out. She may have concluded you will also get custody as you have been the main care provider. Is she sleeping with her phone? Ask her to see it and ask her for the password.
Hmmm, the more I think about this I change it around. What would I think if she asked me the same question. Being innocent I would not act the way she did. I am thinking back to the other night. She was so f'in mad and accused me of cheating. If she asked me the same thing I would have calmly said no and asked why would she think that. Not say where is the proof. The more I think about it the more I am 99.9% sure she does not want to see a MC because the truth will be seen by her. My eyes are more wide open than ever. Posted via Mobile Device
Hmmm, the more I think about this I change it around. What would I think if she asked me the same question. Being innocent I would not act the way she did. I am thinking back to the other night. She was so f'in mad and accused me of cheating. If she asked me the same thing I would have calmly said no and asked why would she think that. Not say where is the proof. The more I think about it the more I am 99.9% sure she does not want to see a MC because the truth will be seen by her. My eyes are more wide open than ever. Posted via Mobile Device
Actually, I forgot she went to bed so early like that. If she is in a bad mental state there is no telling how she would react to anything. Depression or whatever. I would insist on MC and make her go. I would also fore warn the counselor to look for depression. Having said that a lot of WSs here have a history of depression, BSs too. If she is depressed do not press her as she is in a frgile mental state. Ask her if she is in need of anything. Time to bait with sugar not salt.
Actually, I forgot she went to bed so early like that. If she is in a bad mental state there is no telling how she would react to anything. Depression or whatever. I would insist on MC and make her go. I would also fore warn the counselor to look for depression. Having said that a lot of WSs here have a history of depression, BSs too. If she is depressed do not press her as she is in a frgile mental state. Ask her if she is in need of anything. Time to bait with sugar not salt.
I see, about to go up and see if she is awake. This is soooo not like her today. I have a strange feeling it will result in something coming out. Talk to u guys tomorrow. Posted via Mobile Device
Well....anyone want to guess what happened last night? Was it a confession or sex???
You guessed it, sex for 1 1/2 hours....but it went against Alpha rules and MMSG since she will be having her menstrual any day. I read this is a bad time for Alpha and rough sex. But i guess the new "me" flip flopped her desire. I'm mean she wanted it rough...And i got a pretty good BJ to boot.
And i asked her about being in bed all day, she just told me it was the weather and i dropped it.
Also, i know she will be wondering about my views on MC after last night. But i will stick to it and say we need to go.
Any ideas how i should treat her today, i am thinking just act normal, give a few hugs and kisses and bring up MC tonight while watching tv when kids are in bed so she knows i am still serious.
Ok, got to get some ibuprofen. A little sore from last night...
Well....anyone want to guess what happened last night? Was it a confession or sex???
You guessed it, sex for 1 1/2 hours....but it went against Alpha rules and MMSG since she will be having her menstrual any day. I read this is a bad time for Alpha and rough sex. But i guess the new "me" flip flopped her desire. I'm mean she wanted it rough...And i got a pretty good BJ to boot.
And i asked her about being in bed all day, she just told me it was the weather and i dropped it.
Also, i know she will be wondering about my views on MC after last night. But i will stick to it and say we need to go.
Any ideas how i should treat her today, i am thinking just act normal, give a few hugs and kisses and bring up MC tonight while watching tv when kids are in bed so she knows i am still serious.
Ok, got to get some ibuprofen. A little sore from last night...
Lucky Guy !! Now to clear your head from the fog and bring you back to reality -- one night of great sex does not solve your problems as a couple. I would just enjoy the day -- have fun with her and your kids and not bring up the MC. One or two days -- even till next weekend can be the time to discuss the MC. Try being with her this whole week and not let her eat and go up to bed early. Show her the new you can be strong, sexy, but also a good listener and friend. I also assume the VAR from the last view days show nothing -- you guys had a great one and a half hours -- but not a great day. Something is still wrong -- and it is not the weather -- as this was abnormal behavior for your wife yesterday -- maybe including the sex part. Be happy today -- be aware of everything going on -- just watch and observe the next week. I don't mean from a cheating POV -- but from depression. Sometimes we are too close to even realize what is happening right in front of our eyes.
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