Yes, MC does do weekends. I have not bugged the wife to go anymore. If MC says she would like my wife to attend I will just ask her to come. Right now my wife is loving the new me and may think her or myself does not need to go. But it can only help at this point.
I will be bringing up my accusation of my wife possibly cheating to MC. And will tell her my red flags and wife's reaction to me accusing her. If MC is good at what she does, she will discuss that when both of us are there and gauge wife's body language/thoughts to see if my gut feeling is true. Posted via Mobile Device
My mind has been back where it should be. Finished MMSG and NMMNG books.
Took 3 days for her to look at me in a different way. Telling her i am going back to work, i am not going to take her belittling me in front of kids and family, i am going to start doing things i want to do.
Sex has been best in 10 years, got some new toys for us and she finished "50 shades of grey". Turns out she likes me dominating her in bed and out of bed. Not in a mean way, but just letting her know i won't be a doormat.
She even wants me to plan a trip to NYC for fathers day weekend just the two of us. And one of the places she wants to go is a strip joint so i can get a lap dance and her to watch.
I can take this as guilt from her "maybe" doing something with the neighbor or that she loves the new "me". Right now i am thinking its the latter but i am still watchhfull with VAR/GPS.
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I would forego the strip joint however. After reading so much here, I would not upset the apple cart by going down a slippery s!ut..........I mean slope.
I would forego the strip joint however. After reading so much here, I would not upset the apple cart by going down a slippery s!ut..........I mean slope.
She suggested strip clubs...we actually went to one in Vegas in Feb. and wanted me to get a lap dance and she just wanted to watch.
sounds like your wife is a bit of a "closet freak."
hopefully she wasn't freaking like this with the neighbor.
Not that there is anything wrong with being a closet freak...it does make you wonder about what she was capable of. Jerry is doing everything right though. Just stay the course.
IC went well, told MC all about accusation with neighbor. Told her red flags...
MC is worried there may be a EA going on or went on in past. She def thinks this guy is a dirt bag and needs an ego boost around women. She wants me to focus on what i would do if i found out and what action in my marriage would i take. Thinks that will relieve anxiety a bit.
Most importantly right now she thinks my wife is more worried about work than her family. So she wants me to work on getting her to be more involved with kids.
Next session is just me (MC wanted this) but i can't wait to have her go and ask my wife to talk about my thoughts on neighbor.
Most importantly right now she thinks my wife is more worried about work than her family. So she wants me to work on getting her to be more involved with kids.
yes...and i do think my wife will be pushing on not going to MC in future since i know MC will be asking some tough questions about a possible EA.
I also won't be discussing much about my IC with my wife, she may ask what i talked about with her but i won't give her the upper hand in knowing i discussed possible affair. I want the MC to come out with it while she is there.
IC went well, told MC all about accusation with neighbor. Told her red flags...
MC is worried there may be a EA going on or went on in past. She def thinks this guy is a dirt bag and needs an ego boost around women. She wants me to focus on what i would do if i found out and what action in my marriage would i take. Thinks that will relieve anxiety a bit.
Most importantly right now she thinks my wife is more worried about work than her family. So she wants me to work on getting her to be more involved with kids.
Next session is just me (MC wanted this) but i can't wait to have her go and ask my wife to talk about my thoughts on neighbor.
Glad the MC went well. Sounds like you like person you picked. Work on being a new/better Jerry and someone your wife would be crazy to leave. I have not seen anything coming from the VAR in the car and at home -- so that would be good. The "jerk" neighbor comes back soon -- so just watch and observe.
IMO -- I think you mentioned that your wife is a high level VP in a big insurance company. Being in the corporate myself -- I know the pressures a job can take -- and finding the balance of a work and family. Plus she had you to count on as the SAHD -- which is now coming to and end -- so that will force you both to find a balance of work and family. Take care !!
Glad the MC went well. Sounds like you like person you picked. Work on being a new/better Jerry and someone your wife would be crazy to leave. I have not seen anything coming from the VAR in the car and at home -- so that would be good. The "jerk" neighbor comes back soon -- so just watch and observe.
IMO -- I think you mentioned that your wife is a high level VP in a big insurance company. Being in the corporate myself -- I know the pressures a job can take -- and finding the balance of a work and family. Plus she had you to count on as the SAHD -- which is now coming to and end -- so that will force you both to find a balance of work and family. Take care !!
VAR is showing nothing but this neighbor has been gone on work related stuff for 2 weeks. He comes back sunday so will keep up with VAR next week.
Yes, balance is the answer according to MC. She mostly listened to me but did say keep up with the NMMNG thing.
She seems very nice and comfortable to talk to.
VAR is showing nothing but this neighbor has been gone on work related stuff for 2 weeks. He comes back sunday so will keep up with VAR next week.
Yes, balance is the answer according to MC. She mostly listened to me but did say keep up with the NMMNG thing.
She seems very nice and comfortable to talk to.
I doubt there is an affair going on. If there was there would still be at least "I miss you" messages going on. She may have a burner phone at work or use work phones etc.
Whenever I was around OM I would be exuding self confidence and secret knowledge to the point of being intimidating.
have you talked to your circle of friends about how they felt about OM, not about with your wife, but in general. They may know somehting that is being kept from you.
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