Oh, we did not bring up my accusations. We just talked mostly about the change I want in our marriage. I will write more monday. Busy day, oh and 90 minutes of hard sex last night. I was rough!!! Posted via Mobile Device
I went to one MC session with my first XW. The guy wanted to hear nothing about infidelity-NOTHING. MY XW never brought it up, and I was still in denial as to it having happened.
But, this MC was truly a quack. His name is Bill D, in Minneapolis.
I went to one MC session with my first XW. The guy wanted to hear nothing about infidelity-NOTHING. MY XW never brought it up, and I was still in denial as to it having happened.
But, this MC was truly a quack. His name is Bill D, in Minneapolis.
Maybe he was stunned by the large elephant in the corner of the room?
Update: VAR picked up strange saying by my wife as soon as she left for work yesterday. We had a normal discussion right before she left, can't remember exactly what it was.
She gets in car, sits on seat and laugh's(snide laugh) then says "oh yeah, i'm beating him"
Which i can only think it was her laughing and thinking she still has the upper hand in this new "me". And she thinks by beating me at "something" is keeping the old way it used to be...
I am trying to think back at what we talked about in the morning. But, my gut tells me she is trying her hardest to shut me up and look as if she is giving me what i want in this marriage but at the same time playing that power game of things are not going to be different.
If she is doing this, my wife is a very strange, power hungry woman.
Update: VAR picked up strange saying by my wife as soon as she left for work yesterday. We had a normal discussion right before she left, can't remember exactly what it was.
She gets in car, sits on seat and laugh's(snide laugh) then says "oh yeah, i'm beating him"
Which i can only think it was her laughing and thinking she still has the upper hand in this new "me". And she thinks by beating me at "something" is keeping the old way it used to be...
I am trying to think back at what we talked about in the morning. But, my gut tells me she is trying her hardest to shut me up and look as if she is giving me what i want in this marriage but at the same time playing that power game of things are not going to be different.
If she is doing this, my wife is a very strange, power hungry woman.
She's either bragging to a toxic friend, or to the OM. So now you know she's trying to play you. Doesn't this make you furious?
That's certainly a mystery as to what "Oh yeah, I'm beating him" means. One possible explanation: She's cheating and feels you're hot on the trail, but you're not quite capable of catching her and she's enjoying what she sees as your futile attempts.
Re read what jerry said. She said this as soon as she got into the car.
She said it to herself. She is not trying to play him.
SHe is trying to beat him.
That is worse IMO.
Yup, I think I am dealing with a woman who craves to have all the power in this marriage.
She does not have toxic friends, because I know she does not have girl friends!! Which someone mentioned that is not a good sign. Posted via Mobile Device
That's certainly a mystery as to what "Oh yeah, I'm beating him" means. One possible explanation: She's cheating and feels you're hot on the trail, but you're not quite capable of catching her and she's enjoying what she sees as your futile attempts.
Of course all of us here on TAM disagree with her thoughts and are betting on you, Jerry!
Wait, did she say you name? She could be talking about some work competition. Or it could be totally innocent. We don't know the context. We can interpret many things from the single statement.
Remember, you don't have any proof. Be cautious, be wary but don't treat her guilty yet
Yup, I think I am dealing with a woman who craves to have all the power in this marriage.
She does not have toxic friends, because I know she does not have girl friends!! Which someone mentioned that is not a good sign. Posted via Mobile Device
Stay vigilant Jerry. If we are starting to see her true colours, this is a woman who will NEVER confess. She will look at that act as a loss. And, simply put, she will abhor the thought of losing even one point to you. Take it from experience, she won't confess on that point alone.
I go back to my post thinking that she might have some guilt with regards to how she treated you. I wonder if that was all an act.
And I wonder if she is BPD? I am not completely familiar with that. Maybe someone who is in this thread can shed some light?
Going from crying about the marriage to wanting to beat your ass in one week is either an Oscar worthy performance or signs of serious issues.
Wait, did she say you name? She could be talking about some work competition. Or it could be totally innocent. We don't know the context. We can interpret many things from the single statement.
Remember, you don't have any proof. Be cautious, be wary but don't treat her guilty yet
I think it is safe to draw the conclusion that this was about Jerry.
Discussion with Jerry>walking to car>sitting in drivers seat>"ya I'm beating him"
Unless Jerry is meaningless to her and she was thinking about work during the convo, she was running what happened thru her mind as she walked to the car.
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