In the past, hmmm...I've know her for 17 years. She was not always like this.
And yes, I think she should have won an award for the MC day performance.
Even MC said depression could be a factor from my description of her the second time in IC. Posted via Mobile Device
Is there any chance she hates her job but she knows she can't quit? And that she doesn't want to stay home, either? That she feels trapped (although some people would kill for a trap like this).
Is there any chance she hates her job but she knows she can't quit? And that she doesn't want to stay home, either? That she feels trapped (although some people would kill for a trap like this).
She has mentioned a few things about her job. She has meetings all day, and has made a comment that she had been talking to people all day and just wants to come home and go upstairs and it to be silent.
Well, I've had my 4 YO all day and not one adult conversation. I would like quiet time also but I make an effort to talk to my wife.
I know roles are totally reversed to the norm. There is a lot of pressure to be the breadwinner. But I'm seeing more and more that she sees my role as much less important than hers. And that's not good. Posted via Mobile Device
She has mentioned a few things about her job. She has meetings all day, and has made a comment that she had been talking to people all day and just wants to come home and go upstairs and it to be silent.
Well, I've had my 4 YO all day and not one adult conversation. I would like quiet time also but I make an effort to talk to my wife.
I know roles are totally reversed to the norm. There is a lot of pressure to be the breadwinner. But I'm seeing more and more that she sees my role as much less important than hers. And that's not good. Posted via Mobile Device
That is the crux of the problem. She sees her role as more important. That is the perception you need to change.
Damn Jerry, i am going to start helping my wife with the kids homework more often......
Even I take my wife for granted sometimes. Never too old to learn I guess.
She has mentioned a few things about her job. She has meetings all day, and has made a comment that she had been talking to people all day and just wants to come home and go upstairs and it to be silent.
Well, I've had my 4 YO all day and not one adult conversation. I would like quiet time also but I make an effort to talk to my wife.
I know roles are totally reversed to the norm. There is a lot of pressure to be the breadwinner. But I'm seeing more and more that she sees my role as much less important than hers. And that's not good. Posted via Mobile Device
You and I share certain parallels. I was (am) the SAHM and my H the breadwinner. We also had certain role-reversals in terms of gender stereotypes--I am the one with the more forceful, direct personality; my H is the one who is non-confrontational, less direct. I NEVER let him forget that my job was just as hard as his, that I worked just as long as he did and that it continued after he got home. (And that I was also a former professional with a thriving career before I quit.) And look where that got me...he found an escape from that dynamic, and good.
Have you ever looked into forums for SAHD's? I can't believe they don't discuss this issue up one side and down the other and how they've learned to handle it. Or are all the SAHDs fulfilling THEIR gender stereotypes and suffering in silence in isolated islands in their own homes?
You and I share certain parallels. I was (am) the SAHM and my H the breadwinner. We also had certain role-reversals in terms of gender stereotypes--I am the one with the more forceful, direct personality; my H is the one who is non-confrontational, less direct. I NEVER let him forget that my job was just as hard as his, that I worked just as long as he did and that it continued after he got home. (And that I was also a former professional with a thriving career before I quit.) And look where that got me...he found an escape from that dynamic, and good.
Have you ever looked into forums for SAHD's? I can't believe they don't discuss this issue up one side and down the other and how they've learned to handle it. Or are all the SAHDs fulfilling THEIR gender stereotypes and suffering in silence in isolated islands in their own homes?
did a quick check and not too much SAHD forums that talk about infidelity. Will look more later.
did a quick check and not too much SAHD forums that talk about infidelity. Will look more later.
Look into maintaining balance and respect in general. These appear to be issues you have now (with infidelity not as clear cut), so you may find useful information about dealing with at least that.
did a quick check and not too much SAHD forums that talk about infidelity. Will look more later.
I wasn't thinking infidelity, but rather, how do you (as a SAHD) handle a wife who starts to look down on your role and it changes the dynamic of your marriage.
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