So i lost it last night...she gets UTI once in a while after sex and has these pills she takes. So part of my investigation to see if she is cheating on me with neighbor is to keep count. Well, we have not had sex in 8 days and i counted them 3 days ago and there were 29. i count last night and there were 24. She did not mention having to take any...
So i make a huge mistake and ask her if she is cheating on me. She gets really defensive and says no. I tell her i've had this bad feeling for a while. I do not tell her who i think it is though. She of course tells me i have no proof.
I absolutely do not reveal i have a VAR/GPS...
I know i should have waited to get proof but i just could not stop myself from asking her. I knew she would deny it, now if she is then they are going to bury it for a while.
That is an odd thing to say. It's not what would jump to my mind if I was innocent.
When my husband was denying his affair (for a few months, I had zero proof except his huge distance, no idea who the AP could be), he never said this, even once. He just vehemently denied that there was anyone else.
I'm sorry Jerry. I wish there was a good answer. She still could be innocent even with that comment. You two have been so apart emotionally. It is very hard not to confront when your suspicions are so high. Just about everybody does it, even after getting advice to wait.
I just wish you had some insight into her thinking.
Lay low and don't mention it again. Give her a fake apology and go submarine, keep monitoring and watching.
I know that context is everything, but at some point, its not about having to prove to her that she cheated. If she really takes this stance, as opposed to arguing her innocence, the marriage could be long over before the paperwork is started.
The neighbor "might" well be a red herring. It might be someone else. Now she will be extra cautious as if now isn't enough. It will be even harder if she "is" indeed cheating and careful about it.
Can someone educate me on why one would take UTI pills? I have no idea. Is that sex related?
When I first suspected my wife, I had no proof, just a bunch of red flags. She was able to plausibly deny it.
If I had known then all the stuff that I have learned on TAM, I would have busted her.
Lay low, get proof.
Urinary tract inf. happens lets say my wife has not cleaned herself down there or if I did not take a shower and I was a little dirty. And during sex he UT can get an infection Posted via Mobile Device
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