I disagee with this. Cheaters by their very nature are selfish and liars. So how can they possibly be good parents?
I'm not saying they should be denied access to their children, but I am tired of people saying that they're a liar and a cheat, but they are a good parent. The bar would have to be set awfully low to still qualify as a good parent after choosing to destroy the family by cheating, by setting an example of lies and choosing your own selfish wants above your family and your vows.
Everybody is selfish to some degree.
Families are not necessarily destroyed by cheating. At least they're not necessarily any worse off than any other broken family of divorce, which is most families nowadays.
Should we now say that one or both parents who divorce should be given limited access to their children, especially if one parent wanted the divorce and the other didn't? Even if it was for reasons other than infidelity because the family is still "destroyed"?
It's how the divorce is handled that affects the kids, not the reasons for it.
Cut her off get rid of all joint accts etc and any credit cards that have both of yalls name on them tell her she needs to leave as she is the one cheating and file counseling will not work as she is still in the affair she is cake eating big time and using you their are to many other decent women out their to not let this one go the sooner the better
Cheaters aren't necessarily bad parents, cheating doesn't reduce,remove, or eliminate their parental rights.
Cheaters have a low moral character. They don't know right from wrong. They are not good role models. These traits do not make for being a good parent.
People in a bad marriage that have high morals, know right and wrong and are good role models, do the proper thing with their marriage. They attend counseling to try to fix issues. They work on a marriage as all marriages require work. If after working sincerely on a marriage, the marriage still fails, they end the marriage. They don't cheat.
If something were to happen to me, I would have no problem with my ex raising our two kids. She's morally bankrupt as a wife; however, she's still a great mother to the children.
She may have fallen out of love with me but she has never stopped loving her kids.
Chalk this up to the ability to compartmentalize different aspects of their lives. So I would not make a blanket statement that cheaters are bad parents. That would be akin to saying that someone who cheats on his or her taxes is an unfit individual in other aspects of their lives.
Trust me, I think the worst about my wife because of what she did to the family. But I'm not ready to tar and feather her -- at least not yet.
I agree that cheaters aren't necessarily bad parents. They are just not the 'best' parents.
If everything else is equal between two parents, but one was faithful and the other wasn't, then if they are deciding who is the best parent for the kids, then I would suggest the faithful parent is 'best'.
The problem is in regards to determining that everything else is equal.
If everything else is equal between two parents, but one was faithful and the other wasn't, then if they are deciding who is the best parent for the kids, then I would suggest the faithful parent is 'best'..
All other things are never equal, cheating doesn't make one person a worser parent than a faithful one, and unless you're a court appointed custody evaluator it doesn't matter what you suggest.