No, I have not. And I do not know why it is registered in our town. My wife has told me she will have her daughter use a landline hence forth. But always from strange or different numbers. I check. The one phone, a cell was the only one really in question. Still more strange to me. I got to think her daughter is someway involved. Maybe my insecurities, but her daughter is a major intimacy breaker for my wife and I. She has cause so much strife between us. She does not like me!
Look in your wife's purse, nightstand, etc. to see if she is hiding a phone. Most of the time cheaters will use a burner phone and will keep it turned off hence leading straight to vm.
Do you have access to "daughters" phone? Can you see the usage of it on the phone bill in order to see if texts are being deleted?
Does she have any medical conditions that would make her suseptible to bruising?
Having a phone just to text sounds like BS. That phone is in your wifes possesion? Do you know where the phone is? Could another man actually have the phone?
So number one, there's plenty of ways to communicate with a cell phone that don't leave a trail. Games that allow messages and apps like Skype come to mind. At best, you'd see an increase in data usage, but no more so than listening to an Internet radio station.
Second, the only way you'd catch semen in her underwear is if she had unprotected intercourse with her. There's a reasonable probability that they would use protection of some sort.
Basically, my point is that it's very difficult to prove that someone isn't cheating. You can't rely on any single test to say "whew! Glad I was wrong on that!". Good luck!
Keko, checked those items, nothing. Nightstand and all clean. The cell phone is clean. I have online access. No unusual text. To Chapparal, you are right, need one. VAR could be the awnser. To PBear, she has no need for protection. She is past that. Condom lubes I can smell amile away, and allegic to latex. If she was having the sex, I believed it was unprotected. If it is going on now, he must be withdrawing, and they are careful. If they are having the affair, they wouldn't care about that, I don't believe. She has been really loose at times there. I must say, why I am really suspicious. Plus all the other things. My main concern is could I be getting carried away with this. I feel crazy. I hear the spouses want you in that frame of mind. But I have seen everything I have talked about and it is real to me. Thanks for everyones input. The VAR is really my next step, and a psa detection kit! Thanks to all!!!
Is she ever coming late from work? Or working on nights/weekends? Long lunch breaks? Anything out of the usual? New sexy clothing? Posted via Mobile Device
Agree. Aly low and act unconcerned.If sheis cheating and you sleuth correctly, you willfind out. It takes time.
Fastest results can come from a good PI.
She uses uniforms. She got hair cut shorter, and some new underwear last September. No frills, though. No long lunch breaks, and she is transparent now meaning... she accounts for her time. No time out, she usually likes it easy after work. That is why I believe it was going on when I really was not suspecting anything beforehand. I believe she wanted some fun, have her cake and eat it, too. And took the time out in the early am or during those banking hours. I live two minutes from the work site, I keep the eye out hoping to see something. After the bruises stopped appearing, she became transparent. But I keep going back to the bruises and emotional detachment. That what stands out, along with this mysterious vehicle hanging aroung my house. So strange to me. We do not even know anyone her, after almost a year.
I agree BigLiam. It will take time now, because she knows of my suspicions. But I am a firm believer with time, the truth comes forward. That is why I am being careful and not to do anything rash or stupid. Just want to know so I can leave with a clean conscience, albeit, I love the woman. With her for 18 years and that would be a big change, but a deal breaker is a deal breaker. If she has done it once, she will again, I believe.
I guess the obvious question is how did she explain the bruises?
It troubles me that ,when you inquire, she became so irate and defensive. An innocent person takes time to explain, non-defensively.
Also, the changes you point out coinciding with your inquiry are verysuspicious.
I think, instinctively we know that when we make an inquiry such as you did, an innocent, loving spouse goes all out to explain and put your mind at ease.
I deal a lot woth cops/detectives. If they get the type of reaction you describe from a suspect, they know they are on to something.
BigLiam, this is true. It is what runs through tthe mind often. She said something droped on her leg after her initial irate speech about not accusing her of cheating. I stated this to be a red flag. And she has acussed me of such. I just sit her down, tell her, "Dear, (wth a nice smile and look her in the eyes, speaking softly) you are my wife. I love you with my heart. You are on my mind. There is no other I need, for I am happy with you or would not be here." And yes, her actions showed a very suspicious nature, whether I have insecurities or else. It is the primary thing I consider to show something is amuck. If my spouse were insecure, I loved her, I would do all to show her tender mercy, understand, and prove without request, to show that I was there for her and only her. I did not get that. Get my meaning. Point... how can something fall on your leg and leave thumb and finget size bruises on your inner legs, the outer legs, and front, back of calves. No medical condition either.
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