Re: Is she cheating, or did she?
A reply to a couple of comments and questions here...
Other than the bruising and emotional detachment, i.e. not communicating well with me, no good eye contact, giving vague awnsers, the truck stands out most in my mind. It was going on for about four months. I have not seen it lately. I did not have a chance to see the plates. Was always around after dusk or dark and always missed it. I checked at her work, and never saw it there. My assumption was at first she may have cut the contact and he became disgrunted. I do believe when affairs end, the OM can get quite angry. My understanding is the other person even feels jealous and rejected. With that said, I feel the OM was hoping my spouse would leave me for him. However, I think she was only in it for that little bit of extra fun on the side. I do not believe she thought being found out would be a problem. If there is truth to this situation, the OM was more than likely having an attachment forming more deeper than her, and thus became disgrunted. Prehaps he was hoping I would look at it as solid proof of her being involved and I would leave, thus getting what he wanted. Question... Could that be a mind set of someone?
The phone situation... I ask her daughter and she said it was her phone. However, no one rarely uses a phone for 'just texting' and it makes no sense why she (her daughter) would have the phone registed to this town when she lives about 50 miles away in a totally different location.
Both of these incidents do not make any sense whatsoever, therefore they are enigmatic to my understanding. It is to my understanding that her daughter would lie for her Mother, as she does not like me. She has caused quite a bit of strife and trouble in my marriage, as do many stepchildren. This has lead to a lot of tampering with our intimacy, not just sexually, but emotionally. These things cause a chasm of rift between a couple, as we all know well, and a relationship can take only so much before total loss of love and respect occur, and thus the marriage is pretty much non-existant. Trust also is tampered with. Sad, but very true!
I love my wife and wish this did not happen. I try to think she loves me. I am trying to move on and accept this as a likely possibility, and it won't happen again, however... I seem to have to keep a vigil on this situation and protect my interest. I feel guilt that it has lead me to having trust issues. Marriage is based on trust and as all know, the basis for any healthy relationship. I am presently not in such a position. As I stated, she would not even participate in marriage counseling. That was a red flag, also. Any input to this info... anyone?