05-05-2012, 11:02 PM
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: SE USA
| | Re: Pregnant. might not be husbands
Originally Posted by KateJ
Please please do not be harsh when reading this. I love my husband and we have been together since we were 17. We've been married for 4 years now. We've had our ups and downs like any couple but i've never stopped loving him.
A couple years ago he had and an emotional affair with some woman he worked with. I was a good wife and i took him back but i don't think i ever forgave him. we haven't been super happy for the last two years or so. my husband has been sort of detached and become a work-aholic. i've been lonely and i made a couple mistakes.
Last december we decided to try to have a baby and I went off the pill. we've been trying to conceive without much luck. In march I went to see meet up with some old friends for a weekend. i made a terrible mistake and i had a few too many drinks and i ended up in bed with one of my friends. we slept together six times that weekend. I came home and I realized how big of a mistake i made and i'm trying to make amends.
Two weeks ago I found out that I was pregnant. I'm 6 weeks right now which is right around the time I cheated. I'm so scared. I'm pretty sure its not my hubby's. we tried for months without any luck and sure enough the one time i stray I end up pregnant. I don't know what to do. there is a chance it could be my husbands. I slept with him right after i got back from the trip. We really want the baby and he wouldn't understand me getting an abortion. I don't want to confess and I don't want to abort my baby.
We just bought a house and we both so badly want a child. I don't want my mistake to ruin our lives. I just need some advice and guidance on what to do.
You need to tell him the truth. There are too many genetic variables at work here. Like if both you and your husband have blue eyes and you give birth to a brown eyed baby, that would be impossible if the child were his. Also blood type can prove that he is not the parent.
He may be physically incapable of fathering a child. What if years down the road a doctor finds something and tells him he cannot be a father.
Truth is best all around at this point.