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Old 05-06-2012, 02:19 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I have been told this is an excellent site to get help so im putting everything out in the open so i can save my marriage. Please PLEASE don't treat me harshly. I need help I understand this. But I need council not harsh judgment. Anyways some background ::: I am 28 been married 5 years and I have been cheating on my Husband religiously for 3 yrs !!! And I can't stop !!!!!!! I don't know what to do ??? Its an addiction I think.... im not sure. But I know he sooooo doesn't deserve this. He is extremely sweet treats me like a Queen. Terrific provider buys me everything i want and he is in good shape !!! So what is wrong with me ??!!!???!!?????? why can't i stop ??? I do love him but i need to wrestle myself free from this habit of cheating on him. Is it because i don't respect him ?? Is that it ??? He seldom argues with me and he is just sooooooo super nice. My Gf tell me I am Drunk with Power. Am I ??? Or maybe i am over analyzing. I don't know what to do. How do i save our marriage ??? How do i stop cheating on him ??? HELP !!! S.O.S. !!!!!!
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Old 05-06-2012, 02:21 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Get some individual counseling to help you figure out why you're doing what you're doing. You need more help than you'll get from random strangers on the Internet.

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Old 05-06-2012, 02:25 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Divorce your husband so he may find a more deserving companion.
Then you might try employment at a escort service since it appears you may be ideally suited for the occupation. This will permit you to provide for yourself financially since you obviously don't appreciate your husband doing it.
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Old 05-06-2012, 02:27 PM   #4 (permalink)
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The main reason may be he is a nice guy...he thinks doing that keeps you around but of course that is boring to you...

I have to ask, are you using condoms when you do this. After so many times you cheated and if you did not use condoms there is a very good chance you will get a STD.
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Stop trolling TAM?
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Old 05-06-2012, 03:08 PM   #6 (permalink)
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In case this is real, how would you feel if your husband was doing to you what you are doing to him and putting your health at risk for STD's?

He deserves the truth. This is not just all about you. If he decides to stay you both need to be tested for STD's and seek marriage counseling in additional therapy for you.

Treating a husband that loves you this way indicates the lack of character you have. I do not think you love your husband at all but are just using him for the lifestyle he provides. Your story is very sad and so are you.
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Old 05-06-2012, 03:13 PM   #7 (permalink)
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You have a husband, you have a GF? Is it just a friend who is a girl?
Wanna stop? Tell him, be honest, and have him help you find the right kind of real help. You are addicted to sex, you are being very selfish and w/o some real pain of ur own you'll never "just stop". You could talk to my X to find out how horrible it is being known as the town whoxe....not being mean, just letting you know people see you now.
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Old 05-06-2012, 03:19 PM   #8 (permalink)
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You want to stop cheating?

Tell your husband everything. After the divorce - you will no longer be cheating.
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I have been told this is an excellent site to get help so im putting everything out in the open so i can save my marriage. Please PLEASE don't treat me harshly. I need help I understand this. But I need council not harsh judgment. Anyways some background ::: I am 28 been married 5 years and I have been cheating on my Husband religiously for 3 yrs !!! And I can't stop !!!!!!! I don't know what to do ??? Its an addiction I think.... im not sure. But I know he sooooo doesn't deserve this. He is extremely sweet treats me like a Queen. Terrific provider buys me everything i want and he is in good shape !!! So what is wrong with me ??!!!???!!?????? why can't i stop ??? I do love him but i need to wrestle myself free from this habit of cheating on him. Is it because i don't respect him ?? Is that it ??? He seldom argues with me and he is just sooooooo super nice. My Gf tell me I am Drunk with Power. Am I ??? Or maybe i am over analyzing. I don't know what to do. How do i save our marriage ??? How do i stop cheating on him ??? HELP !!! S.O.S. !!!!!!
Perhaps you don't respect him because he is nice to you.

If so, you are a masochist....someone who likes to be mistreated. I am sure the guys you cheat with neither like you nor respect you, they just see you as an easy FB.

The other possibility is that your husband is cheating on you. Perhaps he knows about your cheating and does not care.

While you are out with your FB, so is he. He treats you nice and gives you what ever you want to throw you off his trail, and/or to instill guilt in you.

Just something to think about.

If he isn't cheating, let him go. You can improve your karma that way and rid yourself of some of the negative karma accrued by cheating.
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Methinks she's a troll. (I think the big font and over-the-top narrative is a giveaway.)

But I could be wrong.
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How many times have you cheated? How long were each of the affairs? Were they emotional, with I love you's, or just physical one-night-stand type of affairs? How did you meet the other men?
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Stop trolling TAM?
Hmmm, I was kinda thinking the same, TBW . . . . .
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If you are for real, then go with the advice of seeking individual counseling. If you are the survivor of childhood sexual abuse then more the reason. If you keep on having sex with other men, you are playing Russian roulette and sooner or later you'll end up destroying not only your life but your husband's as well.
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My elven pocket knife is glowing. I detect a troll.
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And next time you decide to troll try to be more convincing and please reduce the font size. It screams "trolling hard for attention" .
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