Did Any Of You Expose An Emotional Affair To Friends Or Family?
Just wondering if any of you did the above . . .
I was soooooooooooooo angry at the time but I'm glad now that I didn't disclose.
Primarily, I'm glad I didn't because the "friend" I'd have gone to first, turned out to be the kind of guy who'd tell everyone what you'd told him, especially if there were any salacious details!
I confided in him about something else and he didn't exactly keep it to himself!
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I talked to two of my sisters and two of my best friends about our affairs. All of them gave me great advice and one of my sisters even talked to(and didn't fuss at) my wife.
Without them, I think it would have taken a lot longer for us to get back on track.
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I did expose to some of our friends and my family. I did not tell his family. I regret sharing as much detail as I did. It didn't slow the affair down at all and having people know so much was hard to manage later.
I'd do it differently if I had it to do over again.
I told a couple of my friends and my mom, my sister and my cousin. He told his mom. I don't believe he has told any of his friends.
Of course he didn't go into detail with his mom. I let him know that if anyone, including and especially his mom, said a word to me about it, I would let them know in full detail (pics/texts)what happened.
His mom did call me that night, but I was out enjoying myself with my cousin, so I didn't answer.
I've learned she says one thing to him and another to me. She tries to appear fair. She is his mother.
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Originally Posted by LeighRichwood
I did expose to some of our friends and my family. I did not tell his family. I regret sharing as much detail as I did. It didn't slow the affair down at all and having people know so much was hard to manage later.
I'd do it differently if I had it to do over again.
What would have happened, do you think, if you had told his family--would that have changed anything or not really?
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I did. I told everyone that would listen I was very angry not only was my H having and EA but it was with a very close friend of mine who was trying very hard to make it a PA (I found all the emails between them).
Do I regret any of it only a little and mostly because people thought and still think I over reacted because they didn't have sex some in my family think I made a fuss over nothing.
I know I made it very hard for H to go anywhere as everyone was looking at him but as I said to him live with it I have to forever.
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Originally Posted by iheartlife
What would have happened, do you think, if you had told his family--would that have changed anything or not really?
I don't think his family would have gotten involved very much. They would probably have supported him, but even that would have been minimal. We live in a different country than them (they're in UK, we're in US) and don't get to see them very much.
It probably would have made no difference except to make him angrier than he was. I would have been willing to do it even with the anger if I thought it would have helped.
If we had ended up divorced, I would have told them for sure at that point. Even if only to make sure I got my side of the story told. It wouldn't really matter, but I'd have felt better.
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I did...the first dd I told him to let his mother know..and I let my sister know as well.
THe second dd two weeks ago..I let his mother know, my mother know, his sisters know, my sister again..and the most devestating to H..our 22 year old son.
I think if H had his way..nobody would have found out about it..just him and I..but nope..sorry you play you pay!!! I think it is the best thing because it caused him shame and embarrassment.
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Originally Posted by Almostrecovered
your exposure didnt cause her to fly the coop, she was already planning on seeing OM, but was just going to keep it secret
According to the thread, WW had bought the tickets to fly to San Diego long before bandit.45 knew of the affair, much less exposed it. Then, even in the face of exposure, she still carried through with her original plan to see OM.
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