Well, in another month or so , I will finally be finished with my STBex, and will be able to move on with my life. I have been seeing another lady and really think that she might be the answer to my prayers. We WERE going to wait until my divorce was final before having sex, but I decided that since there is no possibility of reconciliation, and that we are legally separated, and that my STB-ex knows and understands this, to begin the physical part of our new relationship. For those of you that have followed my story, you know that I have done everything possible for my STB-ex, and way more than most. I have come to the conclusion that I should not be held captive to a dead marriage. She cheated, she has the mental issues, so why do I have to respect a marriage that she threw into the garbage? I did the best I could for her, now it's my time to live.
I think it is fine. Your wife's infidelity materially breached the contract, thus voiding it in its entirety, IMO.
You should not be bound by vows she , unilaterally broke.
You have no fidelity agreement in effect anymore. You could do this, IMO, even without having gone the extra mile in informing your wife.After all, she did not notify you of her activites, did she?
WE had a GREAT!!!!!!! night, last night. We went to dinner, then went out on the Potomac in a friend's cabin cruiser, and f**ked our brains out!!! I'm her first black guy, so she was a little nervous at first, but she really warmed to her work. I'm still amazed that I like her so much, I have had other white women before, but as a general rule, I don't find them all that attractive, but with her it is different. She is gorgeous, tanned, and has a figure like a Goddess, but it's her eyes that have me hooked. I swear that she can see into my soul. This morning, she called to tell me that she has never been loved as wonderfully well (her words) as she was last night, and she wants "US", to experience, "nirvana", every time we are together. She's so romantic, giving and caring, and considering how much I've dealt with in the last year, it has been wonderful to be treated like a king, for a change.
Oh wait. I read your last post just now. LOL. Hope you used protection. Sounds like it was awesome.
It wasn't JUST the sex. It was the whole evening, including the conversation in between, during and after. WE wrapped blankets around our selves and took our drinks up on deck and watched the city lights, and just were together. It was so relaxing and peaceful, then it was passionate and hot. It's hard to decribe how wonderful it was to be the center of another person's world, even just for a night.