when in doubt hack the spouses computer and steal all their data. bonus points if you take their credit card info and route the money into foreign bank accounts
Sorry hope1964 had too much of the old red stuff last night and my reply does not make sense at all!
I was referring to whatsups quote last night.
Just had a read of your story and thats awful, you have had it bad. I am sorry to read that.
I know what you mean about the online fantasy becoming reality and can see it happeneing. He said he doesn't consider what he did to be an emotional affair as she wasnt there for him emotionally and it was only a few exchanges!
And he's not really bothered that I'm upset, genuinly think he's out of love for me
He says he's taken his blog offline as I asked him to. I tried to enter his blog address but he's changed the password, and this message appeas when I try to go on the blog.
To access your blogs, sign in with your Google Account.
The new Blogger requires a Google Account to access your blogs.
Haven't switched yet? Sign in using your old Blogger account instead.
This is commonly called 'cyber sex' which consist of online chats with sexual content, pictures, and cam connecting. If hidden from the spouse, he must feel you would disapprove. It is a form of cheating. And if you feel betrayed, even more so! Though not a physically connected affair, it can be just as hurtful and harmful to the relationship. Yes, time for a key logger and some openly honest discussion for this activity to halt, as it is hurting you.
He says he's taken his blog offline as I asked him to. I tried to enter his blog address but he's changed the password, and this message appeas when I try to go on the blog.
To access your blogs, sign in with your Google Account.
The new Blogger requires a Google Account to access your blogs.
Haven't switched yet? Sign in using your old Blogger account instead.
Does this mean anything to anyone
when you search for his blog on google, does it still pop up in the search results? When you click the links, can you view the blog, or does it show nothing and say it's offline?
when you search for his blog on google, does it still pop up in the search results? When you click the links, can you view the blog, or does it show nothing and say it's offline?
When i search for the blog on google it comes up with this;
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The new Blogger requires a Google Account to access your blogs.
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and yesterday when i first discovered it, around 3.20pm, it also said your password was changed 1hr ago. The blog cannot be viewed anymore
So now he's hiding it; you can go the keylogger route if you feel you have to, but in my opinion, you already have enough to begin doing a hard 180 on him. Don't stand for this crap if you don't agree with it! Come down hard on him. He doesn't want you to tell anyone? That's because he KNOWS he's in the wrong. Out him!
That means he's gone into his blogger account and marked it password only.
Here's the thing about blogger--you can send out a link and password for OTHERS to view your blog via email. The password works for about 90 days and then another email exchange has to happen (from him to the person he wants to give access).
So he can still use the blog to contact whomever and for them to read whatever he's posting.
Of course, he doesn't need to use the blog, the gmail or other email account that's linked to the blog would do that too. Do you have access to all his email accounts? Bloggers often have a lot, because they don't want to give their private personal email for friends / family to the general public.
That means he's gone into his blogger account and marked it password only.
Here's the thing about blogger--you can send out a link and password for OTHERS to view your blog via email. The password works for about 90 days and then another email exchange has to happen (from him to the person he wants to give access).
So he can still use the blog to contact whomever and for them to read whatever he's posting.
Of course, he doesn't need to use the blog, the gmail or other email account that's linked to the blog would do that too. Do you have access to all his email accounts? Bloggers often have a lot, because they don't want to give their private personal email for friends / family to the general public.
I didn't know that about blogger, but thought it funny as he'd said its offline. I have access to his normal hotmail account which is where i found the passwords to the blogger account(i knew about his blog, was ok with it) After going into the blogger acc he said he wasn't hiding as i gained access, so he wasnt hiding anythin, just hadnt told me!! hes very good at makin me feel like the one in the wrong. I can no longer get into blogger acc to check what hes up to. I posted on his blog how pissed i was and he didnt like that. not sure about getting a key logger just want it all to go away!
This is commonly called 'cyber sex' which consist of online chats with sexual content, pictures, and cam connecting. If hidden from the spouse, he must feel you would disapprove. It is a form of cheating. And if you feel betrayed, even more so! Though not a physically connected affair, it can be just as hurtful and harmful to the relationship. Yes, time for a key logger and some openly honest discussion for this activity to halt, as it is hurting you.
He's pretty computer savvy- has a masters in the stuff.
I don't want to sound dumb, but I gonna anyway, will he detect it if I'm putting it on his PC?
I didn't know that about blogger, but thought it funny as he'd said its offline. I have access to his normal hotmail account which is where i found the passwords to the blogger account(i knew about his blog, was ok with it) After going into the blogger acc he said he wasn't hiding as i gained access, so he wasnt hiding anythin, just hadnt told me!! hes very good at makin me feel like the one in the wrong. I can no longer get into blogger acc to check what hes up to. I posted on his blog how pissed i was and he didnt like that. not sure about getting a key logger just want it all to go away!
This, to me, is worse. Lying by omission. He knows damned well hes in the wrong.
Why don't you picture what you'd do if you walked in on him having sex with another woman, and do THAT? There'd be no denying it then, would there? No making YOU look crazy.
Don't let him bully you into thinking that this is nothing. Treat this as you would an affair/cheating, or you risk the possibility of setting yourself up for more of the same years down the road.
My hubby of 9yrs has a sex blog, which he's had since 2010.
I discovered last night, after gaining access to his emails, there was a woman in USA he was in contact with for around 6months back in sept 2010- feb 2011. They would arrange private, late night chats online. There were photos of her etc and after reading all the communication it appears they were meeting online regularly. There has been no contact from her since around feb 2011, however I suspect he has subscribed to another account and continues his chats.
My problem is that he laughed, said she was fat and its not an affair cos he'll never meet her. He hasn't appologised or really talked or comforted me. I feel dejected and very unhappy. I cannot tell anyone cos of his blog-he doesn't want anyone to know.
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He may detect a keylogger or he may not. But what more evidence do you need?? He's cheating on you and trying to minimize what he's doing and blame YOU for it. Kick his a$$ out I say.
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